To expect neighbours to....

(16 Posts)
stargirl21 Fri 02-Sep-16 16:46:15

Stay on their own side!

We share a driveway, they can fit 2 cars on infront of each other infront of their garage door and we can do the same our side which we do. The problem is they let the kids plays down the drive when a car or 2 is missing and use our side to. First it was the goal posts and now a portable basket ball net, the also have a static one attached to the side of their house. The kids and their friends play there and it drives us mad. I've gone out and asked them to move from our car and even asked them not to lean on our car. The patents are a waste of space, they are just glad to have the kids out of the house. We had to put up with an old rusty skip last Christmas which wasn't collected until Easter, it stank they put all sorts in it including dog waste. They've had an old door out there for almost a year. What can we do?!

Skittlesss Fri 02-Sep-16 16:51:23

Put a fence down the middle?

stargirl21 Fri 02-Sep-16 16:58:24

It's a tarmac drive, not sure if we are actually allowed to. I'd rather not have to, they would use it to bang balls off etc and tbh I don't want to be the 'nasty neighbour'

SistersOfPercy Fri 02-Sep-16 17:03:18

You don't need a fence. Half a dozen plastic pots with dwarf conifers or the like in down the middle.

stargirl21 Fri 02-Sep-16 23:00:44

Thanks for the ideas, any other suggestions?

elephantoverthehill Fri 02-Sep-16 23:06:25

Grow something spikey like a pyracantha. You will have to cut it so it grows like an espalier but footballs will not be bounced near it.

Insabbathstheatre Sat 03-Sep-16 09:19:24

They put a skip on your drive? Or was it on their side? They park on your side of the drive? Or it just the kids playing you object to? If you don't like the situation move

stargirl21 Sat 03-Sep-16 14:25:44

I would prefer that my neighbours show some respect and wouldn't inflict their mess and children on us! We don't cause them any upset. Moving is an option yes but we only moved in a year ago and there was sign of things to come then.

Arfarfanarf Sat 03-Sep-16 15:44:34

Talk to them. Tell them it's not acceptable. You've asked the kids to stop now you need to tell the parents.
With no barrier it is easy for children to not remember there's this invisible barrier that they should not cross.

You need a physical barrier.

What you prefer, unfortunately, is really neither here nor there in terms of solving the problem. You have to do what's necessary.

God do i wish people always behaved how they should, how i expect and how id prefer. When i rule the world that's exactly how it'll be 😂

But that's not the reality. We dont always have that luxury.

You want them to stay off - you need a barrier. It's a bugger but better a barrier than seething resentment.

justilou Sat 03-Sep-16 16:11:43

Electric fence? Razor wire? Doubt the parents have any interest in helping you out...

TheWitTank Sat 03-Sep-16 16:51:12

I second the pots, or those concrete blocks with a chain fence between them. My friends dad got plant pots, filled with a bit of concrete to hold a little post, then attached chains between each one. He has filled up each with soil and flowers so they don't look ugly.

PepsiPenguin Sat 03-Sep-16 16:55:26

Could you build a small wall?

alltouchedout Sat 03-Sep-16 16:56:14

Either install a barrier or put up with it, really. It doesn't have to be a massive brick wall with barbed wire and floodlights, just something clear marking the division between your site, where they cannot play, and theirs, where they have every right to be if their parents are ok with it.

WatchingFromTheWings Sat 03-Sep-16 17:12:26

We've got the exact same problem. We both have parking for 2 cars out back (one in front of the other) yet they fill their drive with bangers/car shells and the kids play on ours. Fence going up next year! Having work done on the house in the new year or it would be done by now.

a7mints Sat 03-Sep-16 17:29:19

So do you own one half and they own the other, or is the whole thing jointly owned (which is what your post sounds like?)

stargirl21 Sun 04-Sep-16 15:37:06

We own one half they own the other half though you wouldn't think so the amount of time the kids are on our side. It's a bloody eyesore with football goal and basketball hoop, old door and bags of garden waste that's been there many months, it must be nice that they can walk out their gate and look at our tidy side, shame we can't say the same.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now