DD(7) goes back to school next week and her teacher is new to the school. He didn't come in at the end of last term so DD and I haven't met him yet.
This summer, DD has been having terrible anxiety. It's usually to do with being locked in somewhere or being lost. It's getting so bad that she won't go to the toilet during the day because she's scared of shutting the door. As a result, she has wet the bed a few times over the holiday. She also has been generally quite down and moody. I have been trying various different ways of supporting her and am still trying to get an appointment with the GP.
Yesterday she realised that going into Year 3 next week means she'll have to use the shared junior's bathroom. This means either a) leaving the door open and having the other children see her wee, b) shutting the door and sending herself into a panic or c) not going to the bathroom at all, potentially risking having an accident at school. I know it sounds trivial but it really has DD worked up. She was in tears both yesterday and today just thinking about it.
She goes to breakfast club in the mornings as I won't be able to drop her to class, which means I won't get to have a word with the new teacher. Should I put this all down in a letter in an envelope for DD to hand to him on the first day, or wait until after school when I could phone him or ask for him to phone me? Although this means that she'll probably go the whole day without using the bathroom and worrying about it.
If I should write the letter, how much detail should I include/what sort of wording or tone should I use? I want it to be taken seriously as I am very concerned about DD at the moment and would like the school's support, but I don't want to come across as a pushy PFB parent to the new teacher before I've even met him. It could make him treat DD differently to the way he would have done otherwise.
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Pollypickpocket · 01/09/2016 23:05
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