Hey guys,
This post is probably going to be a bit rambling and emotional, (I don't have any one to talk to, as I'll explain,) so I apologise in advance!
So! My partner and I have been together for nearly 6 years, we've been engaged nearly 4 and our daughter turns 2 this month.
I love him to bits, but things have been pretty rocky recently. He decided he hated his job, (which is fair enough,) so he opted to go into business for himself, (again - fair enough.)
We had always spoken about buying a place to run together, a B+B or something similar, nothing massive, just the two of us and minimal staff. He had 1 meeting with a 'friend' of his, (read silent business partner,) which I was not allowed to be a part of - because I wouldn't understand the things they were talking about - and when he came out, he had agreed to take on a hotel in Perth, (Scotland,) complete with 30 bedrooms, 3 function rooms, 2 bars and a restaurant. A far cry from the original conversation.
We spoke about it over lunch, and that was when he said -
"Blair, (the business partner,) doesn't think you should be involved, because families don't work well together."
I just burst into tears. Because I had been expecting him to cut me out at some point. And then he got angry, because I said I didn't want to do it - too big of a project, moving from the Scottish Borders to Perth, leaving my PT job, and leaving behind friends. But he got stroppy and told me he would just tell Blair to forget it.
To which I said that he would never forgive me if we didn't do it. He told me I needed to toughen up because I can't just cry over things.
Long story short, we moved. We have been here in Perth for nearly 3 months. In that time I haven't seen any of 'my' friends, and my family have visited twice. His mum and dad are up and down almost constantly, which is nice, but depressing. It reminds me of the difference in 'closeness' to my own folks.
He promised me that this would be 'our' business, but I have been into the hotel 3 times. And none of that was actually working a shift. The grand total of minutes I've been in the hotel must be less than 60.
I guess what I'm asking is, AIBU to be upset that he is working almost 24/7 and I am totally isolated without friends or family, in a house that is literally in the middle of nowhere, (the views are amazing though!) And I'm really struggling with my mental and physical health, but any time I do see him, all he talks about is work. He has no idea what is going on with me these days. But anytime I try and bring up the subject, he tells me that all I'm doing is adding to his stress and that it isn't fair.
I seriously feel like I'm drowning, and I don't know what to do. I feel like a cheap housekeeper, laundry, babysitter, dog walker all rolled into one and I don't know what to do.
Again, I'm sorry about the length of this, I'm just... Really stuck.
One love. Xxxxx
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PrincessMario · 01/09/2016 18:56
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