To ignore this behaviour? Or should I deal with it?

(11 Posts)
FootstepsOnTheDanceFlaw Wed 31-Aug-16 18:10:27

Dd2 is 6.5 years old .

She is highly strung and still has the odd temper tantrum with screaming and dramatic tears.

We've had an issue on and off for approximately a year now with clothes.

Mainly trousers and knickers - I think she has issues with the way they feel or sit on her hips and gets extremely upset / cross if they feel like they are falling down.

I think she is NT and I don't think this stems from sensory issues.

There was an incident when she was 5 where she forgot to zip up her pants and they fell down resulting in some other children laughing at her - I know this has made her very anxious.

I've talked to her , reassured her , told her not to worry , laughed with her about it etc . Lost my temper , ignored her and everything else I can think of .

After the initial tantrum , she calms down and forgets about it mostly .

It hasn't been a problem for a few months now - until today !

I bought her some new clothes - trousers and leggings ready for the Autumn . I asked her to try them on and she did .

Then she started throwing herself about , crying , stamping her feet etc. Admittedly it wasn't the best time as she was tired and grumpy.

I also bought braces to make them in to colourful dungarees to ease the "falling down" issue .

Now I am so worried about when school starts. sad

It makes mornings extremely stressful for all and I'm running out of patience .

It's not like I can just put her in skirt and tights as she hates those too! Plus the colder weather will mean she will need trousers .

I can feel myself getting worked up already !

Advice please flowers

Mummaaaaaah Wed 31-Aug-16 18:27:57

My DS 6.5 is incredibly fussy about what he wears. Mostly in terms of comfort. And mostly if he's tired as he too will still tantrum when tired or hangry.

It's up to you whether you want to pick this as a battle? DS had a strict uniform including shorts shirt blazer and tie for school so I am more lenient for non uniform unless we're going to something special.

Do you feel like it's getting worse?

Leeds2 Wed 31-Aug-16 18:32:28

Could she wear a pinafore instead of a skirt? Doesn't help with the tight issue, but might ease the problem a little.

Fwiw, my DD wore pinafore/skirt throughout all of her time at primary. Trousers weren't allowed. She/i didn't find it a problem, even in the depths of winter.

FootstepsOnTheDanceFlaw Wed 31-Aug-16 18:34:39

I have pinafores for her but then she complains about tights .

If she goes in socks she complains she is cold .

cansu Wed 31-Aug-16 18:51:15

I buy the jersey version of school trousers for dd. They have an elasticated waste amd are not clingy. My dd who is v sensitive and fussy about comfort will wear these easily. You can get them from most pf the supermarkets.

FootstepsOnTheDanceFlaw Wed 31-Aug-16 19:06:15

I've tried jersey trousers etc - all the same reaction.

I appreciate all the advice, I really do, but I'm looking more for ideas on how to handle the behaviour itself flowers

totalrecall1 Wed 31-Aug-16 19:16:30

Both my daughters have had tantrums about trousers at that age. I just don't buy them anymore. They won't wear them so it's not worth the aggravation. I think it's normally

MinnielovesMickey Wed 31-Aug-16 19:20:44

Do you let her go shopping with you to pick and try things on? Might give her a bit more ownership and feel she is making the decision on what she likes and feels comfortable in?

FootstepsOnTheDanceFlaw Wed 31-Aug-16 19:27:01

I have also tried that - she won't pick anything hmm

It seems to be knickers are the issue then it's the trousers .

It's starting to drive me a bit mad.

I could make life easier by letting her wear skirts and socks the whole time but then she whines relentlessly that she is cold !

Namechangenurseryconcerns Wed 31-Aug-16 19:54:09

Ah I feel your pain. My dd had/has major pant/ knicker issues. It's caused no end of tears and tantrums from both of us!
She's happy with he jersey trousers and I buy her 'sensitive' knickers from m&s.
Socks can also be a major sticking point. They have to be pulled up and stay up.

PolterGoose Wed 31-Aug-16 20:00:55

You can get braces in lots of colours

When I was little all my pyjamas (M&S?) had a button and loop thing to hold the tops and bottoms together. You could do something like that?

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