Hi,
In a nutshell Dh and I are separated due to his philandering ways - and I've been through a very harrowing 5 years. He lives part time with parent and part here in an annexe building. Eventually tried to have a relationship myself it didn't work out.
I have a (relatively new) friend (met a year ago -who - everytime she sees him, goes all leery, telling me how 'hot' he looks, bloody hell he's so good looking, crikey he looks stunning today... Right down to "can I have him for a while?". She sees him on the school run or at times here at my house.
I find her comments insensitive given that I became physically very unwell after I discovered his affairs, and none of my friends have ever done the same. They're all quite lukewarm around him. I know she wasn't in my life at the time of the discovery of the betrayals, but she has been told and she watched the separation happening.
He is good looking and to have her constantly harping on about it is uncouth in my opinion ( is it worth mentioning that she's been having an affair with the husband of a friend of hers for the past two years)?
I try not to judge people but yes, I feel very wary about her in general. She's cheating on her husband left right and centre, sleeping with builders, men she'll meet online etc - all because her husband is 20 years older than her and in her words "an old man"
So when I told her this morning that she is not to speak like that about my husband because I find its a sore reminder of how popular he is with women and all the pain I went through as a result, she snapped: well I'd be delighted if someone was to say that about my husband "
Well I'm not you, I thought, but didn't continue to argue.
I'm really talking myself out of this friendship aren't I? And clearly, I am judgemental. She is unfortunately obsessed with me - she's 6 years younger than me and is repeatedly telling me that I'm the best friend she's ever had. She's highly insecure and has been bombarding myself (and her lover) with messages throughout the day, everyday, despite me telling her that I can't cope because I have daily headaches. I realise she's highly insecure. You're probably wondering why she's a friend at all. She has many other good traits.
I don't mind hearing that I'm perhaps overreacting - but please could you be kind. I love the opinions I receive on this board but not in a good frame of mind for any nastiness.
Thank you in advance.
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stirling · 31/08/2016 16:26
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