I'll try and keep it short. Got back from a brilliant week away in New York Saturday. Amazing time, no arguments or anything. As soon as we get home Saturday night DH kicks off (at me!) because my DS (18) had swapped the cables on the TV trying to get the PlayStation working. He'd also drawn a love heart in the dust on the telly which DH states is impossible to remove. (It isn't, it's now removed). Anyway he really kicked off, said I was useless and didn't give a fuck and that he works hard to pay for stuff like the telly and he's sick of me not giving a fuck. I tried numerous times to calm him down saying let's not argue, let's discuss it properly etc and he carried on and on. When we went to bed I tried to hug him as normal and he physically removed my hands from him. This was Saturday night, it's now Tuesday and he's still not talking to me, still going on about how crap I am and how crap my kids are etc etc. I went to kiss him before work yesterday and he blanked me. This will carry on indefinitely until I cave and beg him for forgiveness again or beg for a hug or some kind of warmth from him. I normally do but I'm sick to death of this "punishment" I receive every time he randomly kicks off. It's unpredictable - we could be having the best time ever and he will find "something". One time it was because someone has pooed in the toilet and not flushed it and he decided i should have noticed it first and sorted it out but because I'd not happened to go in that bathroom before him I had purposely ignored it and "didn't give a fuck". I'm tired of it. I feel like it's egg shells all the time. He's not been near me even for a hug since Saturday night. He's waiting for me to beg for it but because I'm not - he'll carry it on and on finding more and more stuff to complain about. AIBU in thinking marriage shouldn't be like this??? I'm all for talking but he doesn't want to, he wants to argue and then he wants me to apologise and beg for forgiveness and affection.
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PeachesAndDerek · 30/08/2016 08:03
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