To get this for DD even though MIL wants to? (Christmas related sorry)

(28 Posts)
AWishandADream Mon 29-Aug-16 15:20:34

Sorry this is to do with Christmas presents.

DD will be 18months old just after Christmas. She currently loves dolls, and I'm told that she loves stroking the heads of the younger babies in her room at nursery.

Talking to MIL the other day she suggested buying a dolls pram for DD for Christmas. I thought this was a brilliant idea.

Today my best friend has text me asking if I want a brand new boxed Silvercross dolls pram for DD as her DD who's 3 isn't bothered by it, it's only been taken out the box once on the daughters birthday for photos and she hasn't played with it at all. She wants me to have it for free as a thank you for doing two massive favours for her a few weeks ago (babysitting all 3 of her children for a whole day and then driving her to hospital in the middle of the night with her 1 year old DS2 with my DD in tow because DH was working).

I really want to take the pushchair, I know my DD will love it if I can keep it hidden from her until Christmas that would be brilliant too but how do I tell MIL without upsetting her?

MIL is generally lovely, and adores my DD her only GC I really don't want to upset her.

So AIBU to take the pushchair off my friend or should I let MIL buy one?

OvertiredandConfused Mon 29-Aug-16 15:22:14

Can't you just tell your MIL the truth?

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Mon 29-Aug-16 15:23:38

Just be honest with her.

QuackDuckQuack Mon 29-Aug-16 15:23:57

Just tell your MIL and ask her to get the doll for it.

MrsBartlettforthewin Mon 29-Aug-16 15:24:07

Just explain the situation to her and see how she feels. Would she be up to having her name put on it at Christmas seen as its not costing you anything as far as DD is concerned could it be from her grandma?

DailyFaily Mon 29-Aug-16 15:24:40

Would be daft to buy when you can have one for free - just tell your MIL the truth, if you're feeling generous let MIL give her the pram. If you'd rather give it yourself then MIL could buy a doll and some lovely accessories to go with it?

sleepachu Mon 29-Aug-16 15:24:47

if you're getting it free and would have been happy for MIL to give her one before your friend offered, could your MIL be the one to give it her?

Wilberforce2 Mon 29-Aug-16 15:24:59

I would tel your Mil exactly what you have written here, say it seems silly to pass up the offer of a free one just so your mil can buy one. Can you mil buy the baby doll to go with it?

You might find your dd is too small for the Silvercross one, my dd is 2.5 and can just about push around a large pram, she prefers her £6.99 Argos pushchair hmm

NoNutsPlease Mon 29-Aug-16 15:25:40

Seems silly not to take it and it's a thank you gift so a little rude to turn it down!

Christmas is ages away so I'm MIL can can get think of something else. Doll/ accessories (high chair, bath, bouncer combo?)

fuzzywuzzy Mon 29-Aug-16 15:25:46

Accept the gift, I'd have loved a silvercross dolls pram for mine. Tell mil and ask her to get DD a doll with soft baby type hair go out in the pram.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Mon 29-Aug-16 15:25:52

You've got the chance to get a pram for your daughter totally free of charge. You'd be mad not to accept. Mil can buy another equally lovely gift.

mypropertea Mon 29-Aug-16 15:25:54

If it was free, and your not broke, I would give it to her as soon as you get it. Tell mil there are still loads of other things that a baby doll "needs" like a potty and a bottle and even the doll it's self. She dhouldnt be precious about it, this way her granddaughter gets more.

Nocabbageinmyeye Mon 29-Aug-16 15:26:24

This is just a non issue, do not make it one

You: "how lucky was I Mil I got a fantastic new free pram off Mary, Ihave hidden it the attic for Christmas"

Mil: Oh that was lovely of her, I'll buy her a new fill for her new pram instead

You are worrying about nothing

RandomMess Mon 29-Aug-16 15:26:49

Just tell MIL and help think up another suggestion! Dolls highchair or toy kitchen would be my suggestions.

Nocabbageinmyeye Mon 29-Aug-16 15:27:28

*doll

NoNutsPlease Mon 29-Aug-16 15:27:33

Awful writing, sorry blush

Gazelda Mon 29-Aug-16 15:28:16

Tell the truth. I'm sure there are other doll-related gifts your MiL can think of.
My DD was given a beautiful chest full of baby nappies, clothes, milk bottles, doll-sized baby toys etc. It's still a favourite 8 years later and she remembers who gave it to her.
If she knits, can she make a set of blankets?
A small table with 2 chairs and a tea set so DD and her dollies can have tea parties together? There are some lovely wooden ones that will grown with your DD.

BrollySmolly Mon 29-Aug-16 15:29:22

I would tell mil that a friend has offered this brand new pushchair to you and would she like to give it to your Dd for Christmas or if not, you'll put it away for Christmas instead.

pinkpopcorn Mon 29-Aug-16 15:34:26

I would give the pram to her now and ask your MIL to get something else doll related, maybe a cot or a highchair?

JellyBelli Mon 29-Aug-16 15:36:49

Take it and give it to your MIL to give to your daughter. Its free. Your daughter wants one.

AWishandADream Mon 29-Aug-16 15:39:20

My DDs only a head smaller than my friends 3 year old DD so think she should be ok using the pram she's the tallest 1 and a bit year old at her nursery

Happy for MIL to give it to DD instead, and also for any other doll related things, DD would love a cot too, she tucks the dolls at nursery into bed so she'd love doing it at home too, will suggest that instead maybe grin

gingerbreadmanm Mon 29-Aug-16 15:40:29

explain to mil. i doubt she would be bothered at all. if she is, maybe she could buy one for dd for christmas to keep at her house? she might be able to buy an even better one if she knows dd really does love it or a twin one.

MrsJayy Mon 29-Aug-16 15:41:04

Bet your Mil would tell you to take it if you mentioned it to her . Ask her to get dd a doll combo set thingy for your Dd

RattieOfCatan Mon 29-Aug-16 15:41:15

As others have said, just be hornets with MIL and ask her to buy the dolly or some accessories and that way DD has a collection of toys that she can use together a nd it saves you going out to buy dolly and clothes for it!

gingerbreadmanm Mon 29-Aug-16 15:41:26

maybe a bit early but as you mentioned christmas and cot im sure i saw a lovely wooden one in studio that might be worth a look.

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