to allow my DD to go to the Notting Hill Carnival?

(244 Posts)
haventkilledtheorchidyet Sun 28-Aug-16 20:04:05

DD (14) wants to go to the NHC. She is quite streetwise and will be going with a couple of friends. AIBU to let her?

mummypig14 Sun 28-Aug-16 20:07:17

No fucking way would I let her go

Bluechip Sun 28-Aug-16 20:16:24

Let her go in the day with strict check in times and a return time with you.

CustardLover Sun 28-Aug-16 20:16:49

Have you been with her before? Does she know the area? I went when I was about that age (a long time ago!) and while I did know the area I wasn't prepared for the length of time I'd have to walk (buses diverted) and the fact that there was nowhere to go to the loo!

PseudoBadger Sun 28-Aug-16 20:17:30

Today, very possibly (but obvs too late now!) Tomorrow - no. No. I'm working there tomorrow and am dreading it.

Lilaclily Sun 28-Aug-16 20:17:30

I'm interested to know why not mummypig? I haven't been but thought teenagers in the day would be OK?

badg3r Sun 28-Aug-16 20:23:04

As an adult I could barely navigate my way home. It's a pickpocket's heaven. There is no way I would let DS go at 14.

PseudoBadger Sun 28-Aug-16 20:25:39

Lilac - it is just SO busy. Monday has a very different dynamic than Sunday. As a petite woman I have been carried along by the crowd, feet off the floor. Seriously. And shit can go down right in front of you, nothing to do with you, not your fault but you're right there in the middle of it and can't get away.

Lilaclily Sun 28-Aug-16 20:26:15

shock sounds scary !

Titsywoo Sun 28-Aug-16 20:28:07

No I wouldn't. I had a horrible experience there on the Monday about 18 years ago. Man went mad an pulled out a huge knife in the middle of the crowd. I didn't see it at first and people were shouting bomb so everyone was running and screaming. It was terrifying and I'd never go back.

HermioneWeasley Sun 28-Aug-16 20:28:15

Does she know the area well and is she generally streetwise?

Dontyoulovecalpol Sun 28-Aug-16 20:29:25

I would for children's carnival but not for main carnival day

haventkilledtheorchidyet Sun 28-Aug-16 20:34:20

doesn't know the area, we live in SE

livinglooney8 Sun 28-Aug-16 20:35:35

Used to live there for about 20 yrs. Most residents either leave or are trapped until the bank holiday is over. And then come out to see their roads trashed. There's always trouble and it's often played down. I would rather send my 14 year old DD to Faliraki

1pink4blue Sun 28-Aug-16 20:36:54

i wouldnt
there were four stabbings there today

HermioneWeasley Sun 28-Aug-16 20:37:56

If she doesn't know the area, then absolutely not.

PatMullins Sun 28-Aug-16 20:37:56

Not a chance. DP used to work in Notting Hill and he would agree.

MyWineTime Sun 28-Aug-16 20:39:50

Not a chance!!

CustardLover Sun 28-Aug-16 20:39:56

If she doesn't know the area then I definitely wouldn't let her, it's pretty overwhelming even without all of the other points pp's have made.

BeMorePanda Sun 28-Aug-16 20:44:59

I've been today. It's calmer on the Sunday. Still fucking crazy mad in places though.

Does she know the area?

I think it would depend on how street Savy she is.

Becles Sun 28-Aug-16 20:46:45

Yanbu

BeMorePanda Sun 28-Aug-16 20:47:44

Lots of dancing.

NannyPhlegm Sun 28-Aug-16 20:51:51

My mother lives in Notting Hill and she decamps to ours every year over the bank holiday weekend to avoid the carnival. Not a chance I would let my dc go. No matter how streetwise they are, they simply cannot be prepared for NHC

PseudoBadger Sun 28-Aug-16 20:59:27

Imagine your 14 year old and friends know, essentially, what tube to get to carnival, where to spend the day and how to get home. Then imagine that something happens 100 metres in front of them. The TSG storm through and form a ring. It's all distressing, frightening and stressful. Packed with confused people. The path is blocked. They are shunted off down a street they didn't mean to go down, and because of a one way system they are suddenly nowhere near where they intended. They are lost. It's late. Can't see their way. Don't know the area so have no safe 'out' or anyone to call on. At 14. No way.

Zampa Sun 28-Aug-16 21:04:13

I'm normally one for letting children have some independence but not on this one, for the reasons others have highlighted above.

Maybe go with her next year (on Sunday, not Monday) and take a view for 2018?

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