I have another thread relating to this, but have started a new one to ask this particular question.
Last year my partner and I were invited to a - no children allowed - wedding of a friend of his taking place this summer (DP being a groomsman). Not an extremely close friend, but someone he has known for over a decade, and who I have met before. Some point later I became pregnant, and as it turned out the wedding was to take place 4 and a bit weeks after my scheduled c-section. I had a conversation early on with DP that it may be better for me not to attend, but we agreed that we would see how things go.
Fast forward 9 months later after a baby and a full recovery, out of the blue DP informed me I could no longer attend. He 'assumed' that due to the conversation above I didn't want to go, and so he declined my RSVP. It was too late to change it he said, he apologised and that was that. To note the groom really has been a groom from hell, ordering my DP and the other groomsmen around, being rude, bratty and even insisting DP pick up his suit only days after our baby was born, with no acknowledgement that I was still in hospital with him.
On a separate note I have been feeling very sad and resentful about being so often indoors with the children, especially on warm summer days, and the upcoming wedding has been a focus of animosity, as it would have been the only excuse in the near future for DP and I to get dressed up and spend the day together without the kids. DP has been out himself, with friends, and of course has done lots of running around for the groom. On the eve of the wedding and after an argument DP disappeared, came back and said he had 'sorted it'. I could go, but would have to be ready for 10am, with no outfit, hair not done, no accessories etc. and that we couldn't sit together! I told him I could not be ready with no notice and asked him why he wasn't able to sort this out weeks ago!
It turns out that I was in fact uninvited to the wedding way back when on the basis that the groom didn't know me well enough. Out of all the groomsmen, I was the only spouse who had been uninvited. DP called the groom on the eve and said if I couldn't go, he would not. But he still ended up going and didn't tell me the truth until after the wedding.
AIBU to be both extremely hurt and annoyed? He left me alone at home after seeing how miserable I have been to go and support his friend, who didn't even want me there. He has again apologised, but after the fact it doesn't really mean anything now.
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HeeHee · 28/08/2016 18:39
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