Moral dilema

(34 Posts)
KaosReigns Sat 27-Aug-16 10:09:45

I'll try keep this brief.

Trying to plan a wedding, but have no money so trying to cut costs wherever possible. So for wedding favors I'm going to make my own candles.

Looked online for bulk wax and found a deal on a online auction site for 45kg for $50. Usually this wax costs roughly $35 for 4.5kg so I jumped at the opportunity.

Emailed seller to confirm postage price (after confirming sale but before transferring money) and she has responded that it was meant to be 22.6kg but she will stand by her offer.

Is it wrong to accept the 45kg? Should I offer her a chance to get out of the deal entirely?

The seller is a local business that sells ridiculously expensive candles, I think the cheapest Ive seen is around $60. If that makes any difference.

DoreenLethal Sat 27-Aug-16 10:15:33

I'd step back a bit here and say that you probably don't need wedding favours at all.

VoldysGoneMouldy Sat 27-Aug-16 10:17:38

She's said she'll stand by her offer. She had the opportunity to get out of the sale when she responded.

ElbowArse Sat 27-Aug-16 10:17:44

Tbh, if you're trying to cut costs I wouldn't bother with wedding favours. It's a lovely idea to make something, but they're often left behind and really not a necessary part of a wedding.

Floggingmolly Sat 27-Aug-16 10:17:49

You really don't need to make your own candles. Most of them will be left on the tables, like all favours. If you're short on cash, let the candles be the first to go...

Nocabbageinmyeye Sat 27-Aug-16 10:18:58

I agree, save your money altogether, if you have no money then wedding favours are definitely unnecessary.

But if you really want them then no I would accept and just leave very good feedback

DropYourSword Sat 27-Aug-16 10:19:32

45KG of wax?? Wouldn't that make a metric shit ton of candles??

Also agree with a pp - if you're keeping costs down you don't even need to think about favours!

CoraPirbright Sat 27-Aug-16 10:20:08

I have only been to one wedding where they have had favours! If you are on a tight budget, this would be the first thing I would cut!

rollonthesummer Sat 27-Aug-16 10:22:07

Favours are bottom of the list in a wedding!! If you're cutting costs-prioritise and make sure you have the things that last. Rings and photos. I don't mean expensive photos-some of our best pictures were from disposable cameras on the tables!

ABloodyDifficultWoman Sat 27-Aug-16 10:22:37

Have you made candles before? It's an almighty fuckabout and as others say - they'll mostly be left on the tables. I'd rethink the whole favours thing if I were you - but if you really must have them then I'm sure there's plenty easier and cheaper out there.

Birdsgottafly Sat 27-Aug-16 10:24:46

Are you in the US? I can understand you wanting favours.

Can you make all that you need with the 22.6 kg? Is it within your budget of you paid more?

I can understand your moral dilemma and would up the cash offer, or take less wax, if I could.

Foslady Sat 27-Aug-16 10:25:55

Or an mew business opportunity for you......

KaosReigns Sat 27-Aug-16 10:26:11

Oh right, was going to sell candles too, to try earn some money to pay for wedding. Hence the metric shit tonne of wax.

At that price I can actually split it up and sell it on myself as is and make a few hundred dollars.

dowhatnow Sat 27-Aug-16 10:26:31

She's said she'll stand by the offer. Accept it.

dowhatnow Sat 27-Aug-16 10:27:12

She's owned her mistake. Just take it.

KaosReigns Sat 27-Aug-16 10:28:06

I was really just browsing looking at prices to see if we could even consider making favors, was expecting to just cut them. But when I saw that deal then I couldn't resist.

KaosReigns Sat 27-Aug-16 10:29:49

I accepted. Thank you everyone. If I feel guilty Ill just pop down to their store and look at the $120 candles (which I can now make myself).

But at the same time, holy shit I just brought 45kg worth of wax...

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Sat 27-Aug-16 10:37:30

45kg of wax?
You could make half scale models of bride and groom with that!

Crisscrosscranky Sat 27-Aug-16 10:39:19

Unless I can eat or drink a favour I'm not interested in it blush

CafeCremeEtCroissant Sat 27-Aug-16 10:44:06

You'll need to post a picture of it when it arrives. I can't picture it. It's pretty heavy & dense but not majorly so.

PepsiPenguin Sat 27-Aug-16 10:44:16

I think candles are a lovely idea as wedding favours, but I love candles smile

Also think it is ok for you to take the wax, I'm sure you will in future be a repeat customer and I'm sure the seller will still be making some money from the sale, or she would have said something.

Pisssssedofff Sat 27-Aug-16 10:55:28

She'll make her money back along the line and will get over it. You need the extra cash so it's all good.

diddl Sat 27-Aug-16 10:55:55

I love candles also.

Presumably it won't just be a plain bog standard candle that you can pick up for pennies?

Will they be easy for people to take home?

I just did the traditional sugared almonds.

BengalCatMum Sat 27-Aug-16 11:02:07

My DP uses ebay daily to bump up our FTB property fund; its become his side job.

His stance on a mistake on advert is he should have noticed the multiple times when he checked the sale.

If he messes up he honours it and sulks round the house for a day

So don't feel guilty, because its her ratings and feedback, and your returned custom that she is valuing (like my DP says). So give her top marks and amazing feedback on quality, time and price (but probably best to not mention mistake on feedback - because then she will get loads of people messaging her asking for the 'better deal'.)

Give great feedback & let the guilt go,
and congratulations flowers grin

NicknameUsed Sat 27-Aug-16 11:15:08

I just wouldn't bother with wedding favours at all. I can't eat a candle and it wouldn't fit into my handbag so I would just leave it on the table.

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