To lock the bathroom door and make them ask for the key?

(74 Posts)
Obliviated Fri 26-Aug-16 15:52:34

Because I am seriously close to losing my temper over the state of the toilet.

The seat is always covered in pee. No matter how many times I have asked them to either lift or wipe the seat, it just doesn't happen. It's 12 year old DS that's the culprit, I'm 99% sure of it. I just used the bathroom straight after him and had to clean the seat first. Again. He denies it.

It's so lazy and disrespectful. I don't exist to wipe up the urine of other people. Unless they are under 5 or something. Three times I've cleaned the toilet today.

I'm considering locking it and keeping the key in my pocket. It's giving me rage.

Sirzy Fri 26-Aug-16 15:53:22

Call him in to clean it each time. If you clean it he won't learn.

Obliviated Fri 26-Aug-16 15:58:34

I do. He denies it and I end up shouting. It doesn't help that I'm 9 months pregnant with a prolapse and if I need to pee I have to go straight away, I can't hang around calling him and arguing my point with him. It's incredibly frustrating, I don't understand what's so hard about lifting or wiping the seat - everyone else manages it.

Annabel11 Fri 26-Aug-16 16:01:23

Wow, uhm ... go after him and show him he is the doer?

RitaConnors Fri 26-Aug-16 16:03:30

I think your plan is fine. It's not like you are going to have to do it forever.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Fri 26-Aug-16 16:04:46

i would do that... and toilet inspections afterwards ...disgusting wee beast! (or beasts...just in case it is not the prime suspect!)

And once you find the perp put them on permanent bathroom duty!

Obliviated Fri 26-Aug-16 16:06:25

It's made me cry. I'm hot and huge and uncomfortable. I keep peeing myself (as the neighbours will now know as it was included in my shouty rant) and it's just pushed me over the edge blush

Katinkka Fri 26-Aug-16 16:09:51

My middle son is the same and it's not always just wee.... Makes me scream. Sometimes I lock the downstairs one so he can't use it but then it's such a palaver to get in (have to use 2p). Then the other kids complain about the upstairs toilet. God, it never ends.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 16:12:27

OP, can you get your DP to talk to DS? Man to man.

Mysterycat23 Fri 26-Aug-16 16:12:53

Poor you that's horrid. Get DH/DP on board to show him how "real men" pee? Assuming DH/DP has respectful toilet habits of course..

george1020 Fri 26-Aug-16 16:13:13

I think that's a good idea to lock it and keep the key on you. Can't believe he won't clean up after himself! Shockingly lazy and dirty bugger especially after you have had words about it before!

flowers for you.

BertrandRussell Fri 26-Aug-16 16:15:58

Next time he goes in, lock him
in. Tell him through the door that you won't let him out til he assures you the loo is clean.

RhodaBorrocks Fri 26-Aug-16 16:17:23

I'd stand over him and watch while he pees until he gets the message.

My DS is 9 and the embarrassment of being accompanied by Mum on every bathroom visit like a toddler was enough to get him to lift the seat, aim properly and wipe any drips up. Turns out he wasn't looking where he was peeing and just staring off into space - could your DS be the same?

I still do occasional random spot checks and pretend I need to get something from the cabinet

BeMorePanda Fri 26-Aug-16 16:17:47

I feel your rage.

try and stand outside the door each and every time he goes and show him straight afterwards so he can't deny it.

And get your H on board too.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 16:19:49

You can't go in while your 12 year old goes to the loo! shock

2kids2dogsnosense Fri 26-Aug-16 16:23:27

Oooooh! Nice one, Rhoda.

I'm such a BitchMother that at the age of 19 when my son came home spewey drunk, I heard him cleaning up his vomit because he was afraid of my WRATH!!!!!

You are too nice. Shame him into continence.

giraffesCantReachTheirToes Fri 26-Aug-16 16:27:14

12 is terrible to be behaving like that! Tell him e isn't allowed to go to pals houses until he can clean the toilet.

hotdiggedy Fri 26-Aug-16 16:28:05

Yes, I have this problem too and I am really tired of it. The trouble is that I have 2 and they always blame the other one and make up random nonsense , 'but I haven't even been to the toilet today', 'but it was already like that when I went in'.....

woowoowoo Fri 26-Aug-16 16:28:29

I get this too and it makes me so mad!

Every time I go to use my loo there are wee drops on the seat and on the tiles on the floor. Sometimes there a skids and other splats around the bowl. It is beyond disgusting and it stinks.

I know for a fact it is my DH and DS age 11 who are the culprits. They are not aiming straight and not cleaning up afterwards. The number of times my DH leaves the seat up and fails to flush is ridiculous. I blame his parents. He's 45 and can't even piss straight! At least my son puts the lid down and flushes but it's the random drops that piss me off, pun intended!

My husband tells me to stop nagging and that there are worhse things to get worked up about. I end up bleaching the loo every day and cleaning the seat several times. Any advice for me too?

HeyNannyNanny Fri 26-Aug-16 16:30:25

Lock it!
12 is old enough

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam Fri 26-Aug-16 16:31:22

Tell him to leave the toilet as he's found or you'll take something off him or stop doing something you do for him and follow through with these threats if he doesn't comply.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Fri 26-Aug-16 16:32:52

Take his phone/ x box/ laptop away. C tell him he can have them back when he leaves the bathroom nice .

PersianCatLady Fri 26-Aug-16 16:34:53

I really hate that when you clearly show your child what they have done and they still say that it wasn't them, which it always is as I only have one child.

Can you get a pack of Flash wipes or something and ask him to wipe the toilet after each use and then dispose of the wipe?

Is your DS doing something else while weeing that means he is missing the target?

I know that sounds gross but I have noticed that some men think that it is acceptable to look at their phone while they are weeing so they aren't concentrating and wee everywhere.

Sorry for being a bit gross but it is a gross subject.

madcapcat Fri 26-Aug-16 16:35:09

I know you shouldn't have to for a 12 year old (or for a grown man... but buy some of those targets for them. You can even get heat sensitive ones.

samG76 Fri 26-Aug-16 16:35:35

YANBU - with us it is skid marks that are the issue. Aiming has never been problem, I think because we are Jewish, but this solution may be too drastic for OP..... grin

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