to think a year 6 should know what they need for school?

[Pendu]

Maybe I am BU but ....

Anyway my dc are with my ex until Monday eve and I want to get their last bits sorted for school. I asked ex to ask dc1 what they need in their pencil case as I want to order it (I was planning to get personalised because he loses everything). Ex messaged me "why would he know, he's only 10". I obviously know roughly what he needs but it's preference also....

Aibu to think a year 6 has the capacity to know what they want/ need for school? (Stationary, not uniform etc)

[YelloDraw]

Stationary? Of course! but going to staples and picking what you want is the best bit about going back to school....

[maddiemookins16mum]

Bit confused, has ex asked DS and he said he doesn't know or is that just ex saying that? DS may just not recall what he has left from last term though??

[Pendu]

Ex is saying that.

Ds isn't always the most organised but he would know the colour of ink he needs, or if he needs anything like a new calculator etc. He told me himself last year he needed a fountain pen , hence I went and got one. But maybe they've asked him for x,y and z this year and I think he's old enough to communicate that to me without me emailing/calling the school office.

[Pendu]

Ds basically has nothing left

If he tells ex a list (it's not going to be massive) then I can sort it out with what's left in the study etc. and buy what's needed. But ex thinks this is too much for ds and obviously I should be calling the school or something.

[Pendu]

Now he's just messaged

"Don't agree. As his mum you should know. Nevermind I'll talk to him"


No wonder he's 34 and still living at home !

[JudyCoolibar]

Your ex is a pratt.

However, when my lot were at primary school we had a "meet the teachers" session in the summer term when they told us about any equipment etc that they would need, and they handed out information sheets which included this. Don't your DS' school do this?

[girlywhirly]

Ex resents you calling while the DC are with him, and is being deliberately obtuse. Why should DS give him a list if he isn't the one taking DS to buy it, and can't DS talk to you on the phone? DS should be old enough to say what is needed, but I would have expected him to do so at the start of the holidays while still fresh in his mind. Is there nothing on the school website saying what is needed?

If I were you, I'd grab what you can from the study, and get the rest from Poundland. You can easily scratch his name into perspex rulers and protractors, pare off a bit of the coloured outer of pencils and write name in biro onto the wood. If he is lacking anything, he's the one who will learn to pay more attention when told what he needs, and he misses out on choosing what he would like at the shops.

[c3pu]

I'd fully expect my recently 10 year old boy to be able to tell me what he needs for school, and if he couldn't I'd be mildly cross with him for not paying attention in school...

YANBU.

[Pendu]

Ex had messaged me and in my reply I asked about the bits. I had only just decided personalised might be nice for him, otherwise I was planning to just get the bits when he's back. We don't have any meetings beforehand, I didn't think it was a massive issue. I know he's not allowed biro but some other ink pens are ok but maybe he's switched to black ink this year? Maybe they need an italic pen? He obviously thinks as I have a vagina I should know this , he's equally his dad

Damned if you do, damned if you don't - serves me right for trying to sort his bits and bobs before he gets home

[JudyCoolibar]

If it's a standard mainstream primary school, it seems highly unlikely that he would need an italic pen.

[Pendu]

It's a prep - I don't think he does but I know I did in year 6 when I went. My pint is , he will know these sort of things. We don't get letters home etc, I think they want the children to show Abit of initiative and responsibility. Ds more than likely knows everything he needs and doesn't need but my ex thinks I should know this without asking Ds.

[londonmummy1966]

Just text his dad back and tell him to sort it out then as, by his reasoning, he clearly knows what is needed. Ask him to send it all home with DS....

[acasualobserver]

Sounds like your child's stationery requirements are just a convenient opportunity for expressing your anger at your ex - although he doubtless deserves it.

[CatNip2]

Just text his dad back and tell him to sort it out then as, by his reasoning, he clearly knows what is needed. Ask him to send it all home with DS....

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