DD is 11 and has just finished year 6, and is about to start secondary school.
Since reception at primary school she has been friends with a girl who I would basically describe as a 'Friend Assasin'. She does not want DD to have any other friends, and anyone that DD does become friends with this girl stirs and tells lies about DD, before making that friend her new best friend, turning them against DD and DD is left out in the cold.
Over the years at primary school DD has been friends with this girl, and not been friends with her at various times yet friend or not this girl STILL does this. Her mother is very much a divide and conquer, gossipy type who does this kind of thing too, so no use speaking to her about it. I have spoken to the school time and again but they have always said it is a grey area and that there was nothing that they could do about it as they can't dictate who children are friends with, even though this girl has always turned others against DD.
For the last term of year 6, DD became friends with a really nice girl and really liked her. Towards the end of the term, the other girl turned the new friend against DD and now is best friends with her.
DD is not going to the same secondary school as friend assasin, however we do live in a small town where everybody knows everybody else. It is really hard to be anonymous and have any fresh starts and make new friends here. This week DD has been going to a summer camp type thing at her new school for all the year 7s to get to know each other. Yesterday she spent the day hanging round with a new friend she had made, who is in her form.
Today she got to the school and this new friend said that the friend assasin had sent her a lengthy message on social media last night telling her not to be friends with DD and that DD isn't very nice, and with lots of lies in it. DD is not on any social media, I won't allow her to be. However, everyone else seems to be and friend assasin had asked other friends from DD's primary school who DD had made friends with at the new school, then deliberately sought her out on social media, added her as a friend, and messaged her!!
I really am at a loss as to how to deal with this! As I said, this girl is at a different school so no point speaking to DD's new school. And as our town is small and everyone seems to know everyone else I feel that this girl will deliberately seek out anyone DD is friends with. She even, earlier this year, found out who DD is friends with at guides and befriended them too.
What do I do? It's not acceptable, is it?
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ambergreenred · 23/08/2016 18:10
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