WIBU to say no to this bbq

[MrsSparkles]

DH friend invited us round for a bbq on Sat. I really don't fancy it as 1.they live 1 1/2 hours away 2. We have a 5 year old and 3 month old and they live in a tiny flat. Only outside space will be used for bbq so nowhere for the 5 year old to play. I don't think it's fairly to drag her all that way for something she won't enjoy?

Plus DH will be busy chatting with friend (otherwise what's the point in going) leaving me to entertain both children?

[PotteringAlong]

Just send DH

[PassiveAgressiveQueen]

Tou stay home entertain kids where way easier.

[GoldFishFingerz]

Yes just send DH

[Laiste]

I agree, let him go on his own. It doesn't sound like a child/baby friendly day.

[MrsSparkles]

I suggested that but he wants to do stuff as a family. He sees friend a couple of times a month anyway so I suggested they go out another time as an alternative as well.

[NicknameUsed]

They are being optimistic. We have rain forecast from 4pm onwards.

[Trifleorbust]

Honestly, if there are no other reasons not to go, I would. Your DH will appreciate the chance for his family to spend time with his friends. There will be times when you want to take the kids somewhere and he thinks they won't enjoy it, or he won't want to go, but you will appreciate his support on those occasions too.

[00100001]

Your 5 year old will be fine. Just take some toys if you're bothered she might be bored. 3 month old will be quite content looking around and sleeping.

Sounds like you just don't want to go and are using the kids as an excuse

[Lilaclily]

Nickname, maybe they live in florida

[Amelie10]

I think it's a bit shit of you to use the excuse that your 5yo won't have enough space to play. Not everyone has lovely big gardens so the darlings can run around. Pack a few toys or something to keep your child entertained, it's not the end of the world .

[OnionKnight]

Your excuses are bit weak and it sounds as though you don't want to go and are using the kids to justify it.

[NoahVale]

are you the only people invited?

[NoahVale]

dont be a party pooper op.
you might enjoy it

[MrsSparkles]

So would your 5 year olds happily sit quietly for an hour and a half on the train, 3-4 hours at a flat then the same journey back? She's very good but I think she'd be bouncing off the walls by then. But maybe I'll suggest meeting somewhere more family friendly instead.

[Trifleorbust]

Probably not, but not everything revolves around a 5 year old sitting quietly - she is old enough to be given some toys and told to play with them for a bit. Just tell your husband he needs to take responsibility for her as well, not leave her for you to deal with.

[NoahVale]

she would enjoy the experience too

[pourmeanotherdrink]

I agree with Trifle and others. Just bring some toys / crayons / a jigsaw puzzle for your 5-year old and she should be fine? If you went to a restaurant, your child wouldn't be able to run around either. I think it's actually a good opportunity for your DD to learn and occupy herself quietly.

[MrsSparkles]

Yes the only people.

[EvaWild]

Eh, I don't know ... I guess it depends if you think you can enjoy it as well?

[AntiHop]

Can you take the 5 year old to the park to let off steam?

[pourmeanotherdrink]

Probably not, but not everything revolves around a 5 year old sitting quietly - she is old enough to be given some toys and told to play with them for a bit.

Yes, this. I know I will get crucified for saying this, but my parents used to take me to restaurants and even the opera at this age all the time and I survived (and even enjoyed most of it!). At school she will have to sit quietly for longer periods of time as well. If you sometimes also practice this sort of thing at home, she will have a much easier time at school.

[Amelie10]

If would be incredibly rude of you to suggest somewhere else when the couple has invited you to their home you shouldn't revolve your entire family's social life around your family. They have hardly invited you to a late night, adults party? Just a standard BBQ which your child will cope with.