Clomid and thank you gift?!

(31 Posts)
AbstractAnnie Mon 22-Aug-16 18:22:57

Hi all,

First post after lurking about and reading threads for a long time desperately hoping to be a mother.

We have been TTC for 2 years now. I did a pg test about an hour ago and have Boone to discuss this with! DH is away for work overnight and I don't want him to be distracted as he has a busy evening with clients and needs to be on his game. My parents and family have lived this struggle with me and I don't want to get their hopes up just in case.

This comes after my 5th cycle of clomid and I can't quite believe what I'm seeing.

My question is: what happens next following a BFP after clomid? I assume I'm just discharged from the fertility dept of the hospital? My specialist mentioned a 7 week scan but I guess that's with maternity?

Secondly and I guess this is my aibu..is it appropriate to send flowers to my specialist to thank her (as if I ever could thank her enough) for her help over the last 9 months or so of treatment. She is an absolute hero in my eyes and I just want her to know that we are so grateful. I really always got the impression that she went above and beyond consistently. Would it be jumping the gun to send these soon?! Or if at all? I've never received hospital treatment before all this so I'm not sure if id look like a weirdo for doing this. grin

I'll stop as I've started rambling but I'm just knocked for six in the best possible way and can't believe this May finally have happened for us.

AbstractAnnie Mon 22-Aug-16 18:25:41

I meant I have no one to discuss this with in RL as I obv don't want to tell anyone else before my DH

Amelie10 Mon 22-Aug-16 18:27:37

Oh massive congrats!! smile

CanandWill Mon 22-Aug-16 18:28:43

Congratulations! Send your specialist a card.

MarcelineTheVampire Mon 22-Aug-16 18:29:00

CONGRATULATIONS what wonderful news!!!!

I don't think it's inappropriate to send flowers to your specialist but let the need sink in first and tell your husband- how exciting!!

flowers

Tobebythesea Mon 22-Aug-16 18:29:27

Congratulations smile

Absofrigginlootly Mon 22-Aug-16 18:29:36

Congratulations!

Yes you will usually be discharged from 'fertility' services and booked in with midwifery around 9 weeks... Unless there is a reason you need to stay under fertility (ongoing progesterone treatment for example).

You can have an early scan at 7 weeks... My advice would be to wait until 8 weeks. You usually see the baby and heartbeat at 7 weeks BUT occasionally it's still a touch too early so I would personally prefer to avoid the uncertainty and anxiety of an inconclusive scan and go for a post 8 week scan. This is usually transvaginal.

With regards to sending flowers I think a card would be sufficient. I would also wait until past 14 weeks but that's just me and my medical history.

Good luck and wishing you a healthy pregnancy flowers

Ilikesweetpeas Mon 22-Aug-16 18:30:55

Big congratulations! The early scan may still be with the infertility department, mine was then I was discharged to the general anti natal clinic then

Absofrigginlootly Mon 22-Aug-16 18:32:36

^^ yes ditto

CantChoose Mon 22-Aug-16 18:33:47

Congratulations smile that's fantastic news!
And that's a lovely thought to send a thank you to your specialist, I'm always extremely touched to receive anything like that from a patient. You would def not be considered a weirdo! If you send her a little note or card with it she can use it in her appraisal too ;) I would wait until you've had your first scan or something though, just in case.
I've started patients on clomid before and you often don't hear an outcome as people don't come to their follow-up if it's worked!! So I think she'd really appreciate hearing from you smile

Moonrocks6 Mon 22-Aug-16 18:36:19

Congratulations! flowers I just teared up reading your post. Damn hormones!

I think it's a overly idea to send flowers to your specialist.

Moonrocks6 Mon 22-Aug-16 18:36:32

Lovely

Cheby Mon 22-Aug-16 18:39:22

Congratulations!

I've not had fertility treatment but in the hospitals I've worked in, the early scans are done in the fertility dept, not normal imaging, but I guess it depends on the set up at your hospital.

Current place also has regular coffee mornings for parents and babies born after fertility treatment, so you may end up staying in touch with the team who treated you anyway.

I bet you are itching to speak to your DH!

honeylulu Mon 22-Aug-16 18:39:26

I've had Clomid pregnancies and the fertility unit arranged an early scam before discharging me to my community midwife. Congratulations!

honeylulu Mon 22-Aug-16 18:40:28

Scan not scam!

AbstractAnnie Mon 22-Aug-16 18:51:56

Thank you so much everyone, really appreciate the kind words and info! Desperate to see DH now, I'm a terrible keeper of secrets so it's killing me!

Can'tChoose- thanks for the info! What is the follow up appointment you mention? Is this the 7 week scan?

Thanks again everyone flowers

MrsMozart Mon 22-Aug-16 19:15:59

Lovely news indeed lass.

Welshrainbow Mon 22-Aug-16 19:48:48

Congratulations what lovely news for you. Where I am the fertility dept do/arrange the 7-8 week scan and discharge after that to the community midwife team. I would send your flowers and thank you note or card at this point when you are discharged and I'm sure they will be very much appreciated.

Nanunanu Mon 22-Aug-16 19:51:46

Congratulations! We had a scan at 7weeks arranged by fertility services before being discharged to nhs midwives. But ours was Ivf.

We took a fruit basket for the team and wine for consultant but it was Christmas and this was a thankyou for work over the 2 years rather than celebration of the bfp.

A card is lovely. Flowers not too much.

Phone your clinic and ask them about follow up.

Congratulations. Enjoy knowing something that noone else does for a bit because very soon your body isn't your own for a bit. It seems to become public property.

Right now it is you and your growing child and the quiet clarity of that second pink line.

Congratulations!

SockQueen Mon 22-Aug-16 20:08:22

Congratulations! So exciting and nerve-wracking all at once! I had Clomid at the end of last year, and am now 37 weeks.

Call your fertility clinic in the morning, they'll be able to tell you what to do next. Mine arranged a scan at 7 weeks and then that was it from them (I actually ended up having two scans, because I ovulated very late, but they insisted on arranging the first scan by LMP date, so I was too early to see a heartbeat at that point and had to come back 2 weeks later). You'll also need to book in with your local midwives - depending on local policy you might need to see a GP first or you might be able to just book directly with them - contact your GP surgery and ask once you know what the fertility clinic plan is.

Good luck!

ALemonyPea Mon 22-Aug-16 20:09:36

Oh what lovely news! Congratulations.

I conceived after three rounds of clomid, it was over 13 years ago though, so things may have changed, but I had a scan at the fertility clinic at 7 weeks, then went to the GP around 8 weeks to get my midwife appointment.

Iloveowls2 Mon 22-Aug-16 20:18:37

Can't give any advice but congratulations here's to a H&h 9 months

TestingTestingWonTooFree Mon 22-Aug-16 20:34:14

Congratulations!

AbstractAnnie Mon 22-Aug-16 21:19:17

Thanks everyone, I'll contact the hospital tomorrow and get the ball rolling.

TreadingTheBoards Mon 22-Aug-16 21:23:12

Congratulations OP! Lovely news. I know how it feels to be continually disappointed for 2 years, it's awful, so you enjoy every second of that BFP!! Wishing you a healthy, happy pregnancy x

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