Not wanting to socialise on holiday..

(251 Posts)
Ditsyprint40 Mon 22-Aug-16 13:47:58

Being on holiday and wanting to rest and recharge, not make friends with every other holiday maker staying at our resort/hotel etc!

GeneralBobbit Mon 22-Aug-16 13:51:05

Yanbu, I've never spoken to anyone on holiday apart from good morning or nodding

BusStopBetty Mon 22-Aug-16 13:53:05

I hear you. Just because we're both disappointed in the standard of tea bags doesn't mean we've bonded. I don't want you to seek me out round the pool and tell me your life story.

I know someone who went to the extent of pretending not to be English to avoid the dreaded holiday friend.

BorpBorpBorp Mon 22-Aug-16 13:54:22

For sure. I can barely tolerate the people I do know, I can't be doing with getting to know more.

Figgygal Mon 22-Aug-16 13:55:14

get your resting bitch face on and they'll leave you alone smile

I've never made holiday friends

Scribblegirl Mon 22-Aug-16 13:56:00

DP loves making friends in the bar on holiday. I sit there like this ---> angrywine

MadisonAvenue Mon 22-Aug-16 13:56:57

YANBU.
I don't socialize much at home so I'll be damned if I'm going to spoil a holiday by talking to people.

bibbitybobbityyhat Mon 22-Aug-16 13:57:54

This is why we go to slightly obscure places with very few other British tourists grin. Or rent a private villa.

Mind you, I did make friends with Bruce Foxton from The Jam one holiday, back in my youth when I was more sociable.

smugmumofboys Mon 22-Aug-16 13:58:24

I'm the same. Extremely sociable at home but cba on holiday.

I know a few folks though who seemingly make new bffs on holiday with the obligatory weekends away together back in Blighty.

I just don't have the energy for that.

HermioneJeanGranger Mon 22-Aug-16 13:59:17

ExP was a nightmare for this. He was always a really sociable person but we'd be away as a couple getting quality time, and he'd happily spend hours at the bar chatting to randomners, and then come back and whinge that I was reading/listening to music and not particularly keen on listening to his drunken ramblings!

YANBU. Holidays are for relaxing, not chatting to strangers!

forceslover Mon 22-Aug-16 14:01:53

Hell is other people especially on holiday! All inclusive would be my nightmare, I am shuddering just thinking about it.

currentlyunavailable Mon 22-Aug-16 14:10:06

All inclusive would be my nightmare fair enough, but not sure what that has to do with anything?

Most places don't allocate a share dining table with your fellow guests. Some even allow you to leave the resort during the day and go exploring the country you are in. Really, they do!

youngestisapsycho Mon 22-Aug-16 14:11:02

This made me laugh. My mum was just saying the other day how she dreaded our holidays as I would always make friends with some children and then would make our parents all sit together for the rest of the holiday!

Justmuddlingalong Mon 22-Aug-16 14:14:07

DP is warned not to give our address, email or phone number to anyone we meet on holiday. He's a sociable soul. I'm not.

WhoisLucasHood Mon 22-Aug-16 14:16:13

We avoid hotels abroad for this exact reason.

Ditsyprint40 Mon 22-Aug-16 14:20:57

I'm so glad I'm not on my own on this one grin

tictactoad Mon 22-Aug-16 14:26:32

Perhaps all inclusive is believed to extend to a compulsory new friends package too, currentlyunavailable grin

I love AI <<misses point of thread>>

Nannawifeofbaldr Mon 22-Aug-16 14:26:32

My PILs always come back from holiday with the entire life story of whoever was in the caravan next to them. Last year they happened to meet some person who works at the same (huge) company as me. They told me all about her and seemed confused as to why I wasn't more impressed/interested. Lord knows what personal information about us they passed on to this stranger.

They always ask who we met on holiday and are surprised when we say "no one, we go on holiday to spend time as a family".

TheSconeOfStone Mon 22-Aug-16 14:26:49

YANBU. I end up making small talk with the DC's new best mates parents. DH never does as he is very antisocial. We go camping for cheapness and most people on family campsites are really friendly. DH just fusses with the tent while I field the friendly chatting before we head out for the day.

brasty Mon 22-Aug-16 14:36:17

I am the same and so is my DP.
My ex loved talking to everyone. We even went camping for a weekend once and he got talking to half the people on the camp site, which meant I had to be vaguely friendly when they came over to our tent to chat. So glad DP is anti social.

Northernpowerhouse Mon 22-Aug-16 14:40:09

I think it depends. If they are the sort of over the top, dominate every conversation, let me tell you my life story, lets be besties even though we don't know each other type then YANBU at all.

However, if they are friendly, understand that conversation is a 2 way street and don't expect to spend every moment of the holiday with you then maybe worth a shot.

Unfortunately, in my experience the former tend to outnumber the latter so best to proceed with caution and have an escape plan in place!!

Endofthelinee Mon 22-Aug-16 14:40:32

YANBU at all. Dh was getting friendly with people on our honeymoon!!! hmm don't think so, dear.

Spaghettidog Mon 22-Aug-16 14:41:17

Yanbu, of course. My mother has appalling form for this. I once went with her and my father to an uninhabited island off the west coast of Ireland (where you hike to the far side of the island for a wonderful view and good whale watching), dropped behind to look at something by myself, and when I caught back up to my parents, my mother had picked up a German backpacker and shown such a great interest in this woman's itinerary around Europe that she stuck to us like glue for the entire six miles walk across the island showing us her photos ('Here am I with ze Blarney Stone. Here I am at Madame Tussauds. Here I am again at Madame Tussauds with Michael Jackson') despite me saying 'WELL, we must let you get on!' In the end, I said 'Look, we'd like to go on by ourselves', and my mother was horror struck.

oldlaundbooth Mon 22-Aug-16 14:41:32

I'm the same. I just can't be arsed at all.

My parents go on cruises where they sit you at tables of 8 for dinner. Horror.

NapQueen Mon 22-Aug-16 14:41:38

My folks went on a cruise and relished dining with the same people three times a day for the week. Fucking nightmare imo.

I do not like to make small talk or try and establish temporary friendships.

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