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XH and I have been divorced for 3 years we have two DC, DS 12 and DD 14. We use to have an every other weekend arrangement but XH has recently had some change at work which means he can have them a lot more.
We started an every other week arrangement over the summer and it was going well until now.
We live in London, DCs do sports that mean they have to travel into Zone 1. DD's swimming restarted two weeks ago, she takes the train into London with just a sports bag, twice a week, her session start at 5 and finish at 7pm, XH has either driven down or has taken the tube and picked her up.
DS does ice hockey, 3 times a week, it starts at 7pm and finishes at 9pm, he has to take a load of equipment down, which includes ice skates, padding, a hockey stick etc. He can take himself there in the summer but in the winter I take him and I always pick him up, 9pm regardless of how bright it is outside is too late for a 12 year old in zone 1 alone.
XH had them this week, it was the first week of DS' ice hockey and like he did for DD, the 14 year old, I'd assumed he'd also pick up the 12 year old.
On Monday, DS took the train back from zone 1 and then a bus from the station, to XH's house. The train is a 35 min journey and the bus ride is about 7 mins.
DS called me from the bus, he was exhausted from training and then lugging everything around. I was gobsmacked that XH hadn't picked him up.
I Phoned XH and told him that it wasn't safe, he didn't see the problem at all and when I asked why he would pick up DD who finishes 2 hours earlier & not DS, he replied with "because DD is a girl, anything could happen to her" like the 12 year old would be any safer.
As he refused to pick up DS, I had to do it, which XH wasn't happy about.
Thankfully it's my week this week, but next week I'll have the same problem.
AIBU to think that DS should be picked up?
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DrySoap · 21/08/2016 13:02
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