Hi. I don't often post but I am an avid reader.
I have always had a sense I'm different to most people. I feel fundamentally flawed and as I get older the feeling is becoming more intense. I have previously been told I am 'odd' or 'weird'.
Backstory. My childhood was overwhelmingly abusive. So much so I left home at 16. I have suffered numerous significant rejections and endured numerous traumatic events. Historically I have been diagnosed with ptsd but have never been offered any support for this. I also believe I am on the autistic spectrum as I be very socially inept and clam up in social situations. Also I don't think I have a speech/thought filter as I feel I sometimes say things others would just think. It also takes me time to process what someone says/ asks me so my response is slow ifkwim.
Throughout my life I have always been a glass half full kinda person and can usually flip most negative thoughts/experiences into more realist balanced ones (cbt based).
I am a graduate and have a professional status although I left work last year due to ill health. More recently I have had further major surgery.
I have a dh who I love very much. However he has his own issues which I try to support him on. I have asked him if I am 'odd' or 'weird' and he categorically says I'm not.
I have previously had counselling and they said 'there's nothing wrong with your personality' and said life had thrown me a bad hand.
I have some friends, some going back years. But I don't have a 'best' friend. You know, someone who would drop everything to help you if you were in a fix. I still feel I need parenting/mentoring and I'm in my bloody 50's now.
Everyday I tell myself, it will be a good day, I will be nice and smile, I won't say the wrong thing but I inadvertently do. Then I feel shameful and guilty.
I feel broken, damaged and beyond repair. Is this how I must feel for the rest of my life?
If you read so far, thank you!
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To feel fundamentally flawed? (Trigger warning)
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MissMellowMellons · 19/08/2016 09:24
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