Someone trying to convince me that my baby 'looks a bit funny'

(103 Posts)
theothermcoy Fri 19-Aug-16 08:44:29

Went out with a group of friends for drinks and one of them spent part of the night trying to convince me that my baby 'looks funny' by pointing out various body parts that 'look odd' and laughing at various pics of him. Friend also started a long rant about how he was much less attractive than his big brother and how she prefers my older DC to the baby.

The person in question has form for making rude comments (especially after a drink or two), however they're currently going through a healthy scare so I'm not sure whether to just let it slide or to take issue with it.

I'm partly annoyed at myself for not standing up for my baby more. I made a few comments about her being out of order but was told that my opinion was clouded by hormones and I wasn't able to be objective.

WIBU to keep supporting my friend but at the same time put a bit of distance between us?

Vixxfacee Fri 19-Aug-16 08:46:20

Shes not your friend and yes you should have said something whilst she was insulting your baby.

PaperdollCartoon Fri 19-Aug-16 08:48:01

Wtf? She's a bitch. Yes some babies do look a bit odd but you don't TELL the parents that. I've had friends have some very weird looking babies (who've then grown into beautiful children) but always just said how cute they were.

Maybe it is the health scare, or could she be trying unsuccessfully/just had a miscarriage and it's coming out that way because she's upset?

ChasedByBees Fri 19-Aug-16 08:49:37

I wouldn't have anything more to do with her TBH. Health scare doesn't excuse her being vile and minimising your feelings. 'Clouded by hormones', how patronising.

lasttimeround Fri 19-Aug-16 08:49:55

Gosh that's rude and nasty. I can't believe she kept at it with the 'you are not objective' comments. I would restate and if no apology I would distance myself.

situatedknowledge Fri 19-Aug-16 08:50:20

You are not meant to be objective. It's your child ffs. She is horrid and should be binned asap.

VioletBam Fri 19-Aug-16 08:51:29

Don't support her! She knew what she was doing. Being a cow and a nasty one at that.

Dump her but first...tell her why. Then block her so she can't retaliate.

TheViceOfReason Fri 19-Aug-16 08:51:29

She is not a friend.

And the phrase you were looking for is "no, i am not objective, they are both my children and i adore them and you are being incredibly rude - would you like it if i picked apart and was horrible about pictures of your child/cat/dog/you (delete as appropriate)."

Fourfifthsof Fri 19-Aug-16 08:51:49

Cheeky bitch! You are a much nicer person than I am... I would have pointed out everything about her I thought was unattractive, starting with her shitty attitude.

Having a health scare doesn't give her the right to behave as she likes. I'd step back and wait for her to contact you to apologise.

Leslieknope45 Fri 19-Aug-16 08:52:40

Wtf! Who the hell is mean about a baby?!

HeirOfNothingInParticular Fri 19-Aug-16 08:53:27

I would definitely be distancing myself. She sounds very rude. A health scare doesn't give you permission to say nasty things to people, especially about an innocent baby. I am sure you baby is lovely.

PotatoBread Fri 19-Aug-16 08:53:32

Depends if you want to be friends with a bitch or not

WhooooAmI24601 Fri 19-Aug-16 08:54:56

Wow, she sounds like a shit. Health scare or not you don't ever insult someone's children. It's like insulting someone's Grandma. But worse.

As for 'clouded by hormones' she's using that to put you down so that your disgust at her words isn't valid. Utter nonsense, she's rude no matter which way she tries to disguise it. Could you message her this morning and say "I'm disgusted with how you spoke about my child last night. You might be going through a rough time but that's not an excuse to behave so dreadfully. When you're ready to apologise please let me know."

Birdsgottafly Fri 19-Aug-16 08:55:29

Even if you think someone's baby looks 'odd', or ugly, why would you point it out? It's not like the Parents are going to say "you're right I'll go immediately and swap him".

Btw, I don't consider that babies can look 'odd'.

She needs telling straight and to be kept at arms length.

FallenStar3 Fri 19-Aug-16 08:55:43

I would of punch the bitch in the face, as if she had the brass neck to talk about your baby like that infront of people. I would drop the bitch immediately and I'd be telling people why.

SestraClone Fri 19-Aug-16 08:57:28

I would not be supporting her! I know plenty of people who have had health scares or even suffered awful illnesses who would never dream of insulting my children. Bin her.

YouSay Fri 19-Aug-16 08:57:43

Oh poor you op. She is not your friend. She sounds jealous. I would text her this morning and tell her you were disgusted at her behaviour last night. Does she have any children?

YouSay Fri 19-Aug-16 08:58:41

And no I would not support her. There is no excuse for what she did.

hawaiibaby Fri 19-Aug-16 08:59:47

What a total bitch. Once you could excuse if drunk / in a bad way, but after you asked her to stop and told her she was out of order, she was just plain nasty to continue. Does she criticise the way adults look too?

Tbh she just doesn't sound like a nice person and you don't owe her anything.

Fwiw most babies are a bit funny looking, it's part of their charm! grin

Coconutty Fri 19-Aug-16 09:00:53

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FrancisCrawford Fri 19-Aug-16 09:01:12

What an unpleasant, rude person.

I'd back right off from her, health scare or not. That does excuse her for being so vile, not just once but repeatedly.

Actually, I'd tell her to fuck right off.

Friendship is a two way street - her misfortune doesn't give her free reign to bitch about your baby. Where is her support for you?

hoddtastic Fri 19-Aug-16 09:03:03

is he a bit funny looking?

NovemberInDailyFailLand Fri 19-Aug-16 09:03:38

She wouldn't be getting the chance to make any more comments if it were me. A lot of us have had health scares, and more than scares, there's a big difference between being a bit grumpy or anxious and being cruel and nasty.

theothermcoy Fri 19-Aug-16 09:04:07

Thanks for your responses, I think it's confirmed what I thought - that I shouldn't just let it slide and need to stand up for my baby and myself. She does have a DC who plays well with my older DC when we all meet up so it would be a shame to cut all contact.

I think I'm more annoyed at myself for not taking more of a stand.

dizzyfeck Fri 19-Aug-16 09:04:15

There are two words you should say to this "friend" fuck and off!

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