wibu to rush kids to docs with these symptoms?

(74 Posts)
SophieofShepherdsBush Thu 18-Aug-16 20:55:37

Out on a forest walk with friends. Ds1 and 2 climbing on roots, logs, trees, log stacks. Suddenly ds2,5yrs starts spitting and clawing at his mouth, saying his mouth, Luo's and tongue hurt so so much. He is hysterical, sobbing, bawling, spitting and bubbling at the mouth. Then DS 1, 6.5yrs starts doing the same. I assume either allergic reaction or poisoning....toadstools, berries msybe squashed on the logs they were climbing on.

I leave DD with friend and tear off down the hill with two hysterical spitting frothing red faced boys.

At car I give each a spoon. Of antihistamine and dash off to docs, about 12 mins drive away. By the time I get there thry are a lot better.

Doc checks both, they both have slightly dilated pupils and rapid heart rate, but he decides they are ok. Not sure what has caused it, possible pesticide poisoning, except the pupil dilation doesn't fit that. The kids insist they didn't actually eat anything other than an apple wr gave them.

DH arrives, alerted by friend. He thinks I rushed them to docs unnecessarily and should have just given antihistamine and waited snd watched to see how they were doing. I feel like a dick for taking them to doc, as I wsd there yesterday with ds about something that turned out to be nothing. Am i an overanxious hypochondriac? I'm not, I know im not.

More to the point has anyone any idea what could have caused it? Googling not much help.

SophieofShepherdsBush Thu 18-Aug-16 20:57:03

Lips not Luo's

Ohb0llocks Thu 18-Aug-16 20:59:03

I would have promptly shit my pants and phoned 999 if my kid was foaming at the mouth. YANBU.

WhatTheActualFugg Thu 18-Aug-16 20:59:09

slightly dilated pupils and rapid heart rate

And your DH thinks you over reacted?!

How long before they recovered?

bigredtractor Thu 18-Aug-16 20:59:11

Yanbu - they could have eaten something harmful to cause a reaction like that. You know your DC best - whether that type of a reaction is really out if the ordinary for them. But my experience with HCPs is that they always prefer to err on the side of caution with children.

neolara Thu 18-Aug-16 20:59:21

I think your response sounds entirely reasonable given the circumstances. Glad they are better. Sounds very alarming. No idea what could have caused it I'm afraid.

Trooperslane Thu 18-Aug-16 20:59:56

No fucking way.

I'd have done the same. No idea what might have caused it and they might have been at it, but wtf is the point of taking a risk?

I think you need wine.. you must have been terrified.

Sassypants82 Thu 18-Aug-16 21:01:11

Fuck no. I'd have probably gone straight to A&E. Well done, sounds like you handled it perfectly.

DearMrDilkington Thu 18-Aug-16 21:01:37

I'd have done exactly the same and I only do doctor trips if something's really wrong. Well done for reacting quickly though, sounds terrifying! How are they now?

SophieofShepherdsBush Thu 18-Aug-16 21:02:40

Thank you, I knew I wasn't overreacting. We were in a remote ish area, quickest medical help was family doctor in local town.

summertimeandtheweatheris Thu 18-Aug-16 21:05:04

It's easy for your OH or others to comment after the event, you saw what was happening & chose to take them to the GP - nothing wrong with that at all. Trust yourself & your choice & I am glad your children are ok.

SophieofShepherdsBush Thu 18-Aug-16 21:07:03

They were fine very soon after that, went home, ate lunch, no complaints about sore mouths. I wish I knew what had caused it and whether it was an allergy or not. Have epipen and allergy meds for ds peanut allergy anyway but would be nice to know! I'm still shitting it a bit having googled mushroom toxicity and seen that terrible lethal symptoms can be unseen for days.....

AnnieOnnieMouse Thu 18-Aug-16 21:10:32

I think your reaction was quite tame. I would have been straight to A&E or dialled 999, depending on distance to nearest ED.
You were there, it was your call, DH should wind his neck in and be grateful to you. The risks to your DC had the antihistamine not worked would have been dreadful.

humblesims Thu 18-Aug-16 21:12:57

YWNBU

LoserDust Thu 18-Aug-16 21:14:25

As a parent I know I would regret being under cautious a hell of a lot more than being over cautious. I would have done the same. Couldn't give a shite how hysterical anyone thought I was. You did the right thing

gonetoseeamanaboutadog Thu 18-Aug-16 21:17:39

YANBU

gonetoseeamanaboutadog Thu 18-Aug-16 21:18:07

Your DH obviously doesn't realise that disasters happen slowly. I live by this.

WhooooAmI24601 Thu 18-Aug-16 21:20:20

I'm pretty cautious when it comes to unwell children but wouldn't have hesitated to phone 999 for any child with those symptoms. Your DH is being a plum.

False alarm or no, I wouldn't mess about when it comes to someone possibly losing the ability to breathe. If I thought that might be happening I would go for emergency medical attention. Tell your dh better safe than sorry.

FuzzyOwl Thu 18-Aug-16 21:24:56

So what symptoms do children have to have for your DH to worry?!

It's possible they touched a poisonous plant or mushroom and then touched their mouths afterwards, which caused the reaction. Either way, YANBU and I would have done the same thing. Always best to be safe than sorry.

Hockeydude Thu 18-Aug-16 21:25:23

I'd have called 999
Your husband sounds complacent.

PovertyPain Thu 18-Aug-16 21:25:31

I wonder if you should contact whoever runs that land and let them know? I imagine they would take it very seriously in case of an even worse reaction.

Mummaaaaaah Thu 18-Aug-16 21:26:00

Ywnbu. Hope they're still ok OP flowers

Reading again I think your response was amazing. I might have fallen apart with fear and lost all common sense. You should feel proud of yourself for keeping your shit together when faced with a child foaming at the mouth.

bakeoffcake Thu 18-Aug-16 21:26:17

Was your H cross because he'd had to rush from his obviously very important job/hobby, thinking their was an emergency?hmm

Whatever his reasons he's a dick!

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