I'm going to try to keep this vague, just in case.
I have a newish friend. She's lovely. Her kids are lovely. My dd(12) is very close to her in particular.
DD has had about seven or eight sleepovers there this holidays. She's been taken out on expensive day trips and shopping, where she came back with the money I'd sent and had been bought clothes (£80 worth).
Every time I try to reciprocate she kind of squishes it. I looked after her youngest on the day she took DD shopping and she brought me back a box of chocs and a bottle of wine.
I've had her kids over for lunch and she's phoned me asking exactly what they'd eaten so she could replace it (I obviously told her quite firmly to piss off ).
I've invited her girls over for sleepovers loads and most of the time they decide to have DD at theirs instead.
Whenever I do have her kids, she phones me several times to thank me and offers to pay me or buy me a gift.
It's getting to the point that I'm feeling embarrassed, which is ridiculous.
There is a huge financial disparity as well, she is a single SAHM in a rented house and I have a high earning husband. That said, I couldn't afford to take an extra child out for day trips and shopping without a great deal of clever budgeting.
I think she is just genuinely a generous person but I a)don't see how she can afford it and b)feel quite uncomfortable at the inequality.
What can I do? Just keep trying to reciprocate? Or go with it and accept this is just the kind of person she is?
She has been quite forceful in refusing money from me for the things she's paid for, in fact she was very offended. So that's not an option.
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To want to get this friendship onto a more equal footing?
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LewisAndClark · 18/08/2016 13:04
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