Been separated coming up to 4 years, divorced 2, with new partner for 3. I instigated the separation because although I loved him dearly, precious misdemeanours on his part meant I just couldn't trust him. We get on fine for the DC, I couldn't ask for more in a dad for them, pays maintenance, sees DC religiously, supports school events when possible etc even though he lives away now.
He's getting married soon and I've known a year or so. I cried when he told me on the phone (I was ok till he kept asking 'are you ok? Are you SURE you're ok?' and then eventually said 'no but I will be' and out the phone down sharpish)
It's getting really close and I'm dreading it. Of course I'm being all excited for DC about it but know that on the day I'll be so upset seeing the fb photos, the congratulations etc. I don't really understand my feelings myself and can't say anything to DP because I don't think he'll understand either. I know I don't want my ex but I kind of feel 'why couldn't we work it out? Why couldn't he be faithful to me like he is to her (no idea if he even is)? Why couldn't we make our lovely little family work?' I'm crying now even typing this and it's ridiculous after so long!
Is this normal? Have others had the same? I need to plan something to do on the day I think to take my mind off it don't I? Do I just tell DP how I'm feeling, but how do I explain it to him without it sounding like I want him back which I don't?
Aaargh what a muddle...bloody emotions!
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To feel like this about ex DH's wedding?
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Bocolatechiscuit · 18/08/2016 09:15
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