to go to work tomorrow?

(38 Posts)
SealOnASofa Wed 17-Aug-16 18:18:31

Kids are getting exam results tomorrow. Predicted to do really well, all straightforward. DH is trying to make me feel guilty for going to work on such an important day, says I should call in sick 'just in case'. AIBU to go in anyway?

Blistory Wed 17-Aug-16 18:20:50

Not unreasonable to go in. Your DH is unreasonable in expecting you to call in sick when you're not.

Is he taking the day off ?

honeylulu Wed 17-Aug-16 18:21:07

Is he taking the day off since he thinks it's such a good idea?

SealOnASofa Wed 17-Aug-16 18:23:58

Yes he is confused

Magazinepile Wed 17-Aug-16 18:25:17

That's a hard one, can you just go home at lunchtime? X

BikeRunSki Wed 17-Aug-16 18:26:05

Well then he'll be able to deal with emotions, alternatives and practicalities whichever way the results go.

SquidgyRedBall Wed 17-Aug-16 18:26:20

My parents were on holiday when my results came through. When she got back I said 'shit mum, didn't get the results I needed but it's ok I've arranged to go to Staffordshire now' 'ok' she says.

RosieandJim89 Wed 17-Aug-16 18:28:29

I would maybe see if i could go in a bit later and take them to get their results, maybe take them out for tea after work.
I probably would have arranged to be off work as my parents worked when I got my GCSE's and were on holiday when I got my alevels and it was quite an anti-climax having no one to share my achievements.

HobnailsandTaffeta Wed 17-Aug-16 18:29:50

First person I told my results was my sisters PA, huge family and every bugger was abroad other than my sister who was in a meeting.

Really not an issue.

Sparklesilverglitter Wed 17-Aug-16 18:31:15

Maybe you could go out for dinner or get a take away tomorrow if they do well as expected?

Not unreasonable to go in to work tomorrow they will have Dad with them so won't be alone if they don't get predicted grades

converseandjeans Wed 17-Aug-16 18:35:00

I don't really see why you both need to be on hand - so if he is off work then you should be able to go in.

SapphireStrange Wed 17-Aug-16 18:36:40

God, this never occurred to me when I was that age. But my parents were the kind who would never have a day off unless a limb was hanging off or something.

justneedsomehandholding Wed 17-Aug-16 18:38:33

I don't know why you both have to be there. DS was on a school trip abroad and the teachers handled it. Just got a text. DD I took the day off. She literally shook as she opened the envelope.

SealOnASofa Wed 17-Aug-16 18:39:38

That's how I was brought up too, Sapphire - and that's why I'm asking. DH had a very different upbringing and thinks I'm heartless and uncaring.

SapphireStrange Wed 17-Aug-16 18:41:09

Well, if it helps at all I really don't think you are!

TaterTots Wed 17-Aug-16 18:42:13

If he's off anyway there's no real need for you to be. If he'd said a month ago 'Let's both book a day's holiday' that's one thing - guilting you into pulling a sickie is another.

Muskateersmummy Wed 17-Aug-16 18:42:31

My DM and DF were both at work when I go my results. They weren't what I needed, I popped into mums work and we sorted it out together there. Wouldn't have occurred to me that she should take the day off. I certainly don't think it warrents both of you being at home

Queenbean Wed 17-Aug-16 18:43:27

God do people really worry about the emotional impact of a child for not having both their parents there on results day?

My parents were both at work on results day and I can report no adverse effects.

Won't she be off getting shitfaced anyway instead of hanging out with the olds?

Blistory Wed 17-Aug-16 18:44:00

But he's happy for you to lie to your employer ? What does he think the two of you would be doing for the rest of the day once the results are known ?

Presumably he considers himself a competent and caring parent perfectly capable of providing congratulations or commiserations to your children ?

TheCrowFromBelow Wed 17-Aug-16 18:44:45

YWBVU to phone in sick, because you aren't!
YWNBU to book a day off if you felt the DC need emotional support, but your DH is there so they have that.
So YANBU to go to work.

SapphireStrange Wed 17-Aug-16 18:45:54

But he's happy for you to lie to your employer?

Good point! Is that a great example for your kids?

mum11970 Wed 17-Aug-16 18:45:55

If your kids are applied to go to uni you can find out online after midnight tonight if they have been accepted. This should give you an idea on their results.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 17-Aug-16 18:46:10

He's at home, no reason to have both Parents there.

For what it's worth , last year me and dh were at hospital waiting for dh to undergo a procedure, ds2 phoned us and told us his results after accessing UCAS iirc , he'd have been mortified if we'd said we were staying at home.

mum11970 Wed 17-Aug-16 18:46:28

Have, not are. Sorry.

myownprivateidaho Wed 17-Aug-16 18:53:27

I can understand that it would be good for one parent to be there to take them in and be there in case something goes wrong. I don't think it takes two. And not really ok to call in sick over it in any case.

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