AIBU to think that 3 weeks is too long to be asked out on a third date?

(7 Posts)
Roundtumble Wed 17-Aug-16 18:06:53

I met this guy online and we really hit it off. We were speaking for about a month and a half just as friends as that's all I wanted. I suggested meeting up for a friendly drink and he replied saying he'd like to take me out on a date if I was OK with it. Long story short I said yes and we went on 2 amazing dates and since then he hasnt asked me out on a third, though he claims to be so interested. I bit the bullet and asked him if he'd like to go see a movie with me, he said he'd love too and seemed really enthusiastic but a few hours before cancels by text due to a family emergency and then declines to reschedule.

He sends good morning texts and checks in through out the day but then barely ever calls & on the rare occasions that he does it will be at around 1/2 AM when I am obviously asleep and hasn't even hinted at meeting up again.

I am a pretty impatient person, I can testify to that but am I being too hasty in just wanting to delete his number and cut all ties? As I really feel like he is just passing time with me and after getting to know him and spending time with him in the flesh I don't think I could go back to just being friends.

AtrociousCircumstance Wed 17-Aug-16 18:08:29

Sounds like he's dating other people and keeping you on the back burner. The late night calls are just for sex. Dump!

KC225 Wed 17-Aug-16 18:12:54

Agree with Atrocious, I think he is keeping you on a back burner.

MeMySonandl Wed 17-Aug-16 18:14:51

He is either seeing other person or married. I would stop replying to his medsages before you get more involved.

myownprivateidaho Wed 17-Aug-16 18:16:26

Yeah, I'd ditch this guy. Who knows what's going on, but clearly you're not top of his list of priorities.

missbishi Wed 17-Aug-16 18:17:03

Maybe he calls at 1-2 am because that's when his wife is asleep. Dump and delete, you deserve better.

Grannypants1 Wed 17-Aug-16 18:19:11

You are an ego boost. Fun for a little flirt but not that interested/ doesn't see a future. If you are online dating get used to it. People are allowed to change their mind on you or lose interest. Don't get hung up and assume every positive lead will go anywhere. If he is already not that bothered by the third date when things should be most exciting then it is definitely a no.

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