Background: friend was a vibrant social butterfly (a butterfly partial to a wine or 3). She would judge our other friends for choosing to stay in with their OHs and never showed any interest in growing up. Still lived with parents, didn't pay bills, etc.
Then she met someone online, moved in with him within 3 weeks, got pregnant by the 6th week and now has a 1 year old.
The problem: she's incredibly dull. She's extremely judgemental of those who don't have children, posting on Facebook about how 'worthless' an existence it is and even how selfish people are for having abortions. (She escorted one of our lovely friends to have an abortion and couldn't have been more supportive, this friend is also on FB and has not spoken to her since).
Since she has been with her partner, she's been out with us once for a meal and she brought him with her. We planned our friend's 30th to accommodate her and she cancelled at the last minute, despite living 5 mins from the venue, because the babysitter cancelled and she doesn't leave the baby with her OH. (What's that about btw? Why have a baby with someone you don't trust to look after it?)
She only talks about babies/kids and only ever in a negatively comparative way to those without kids. For example: '😍 So lucky I get to stay in on Saturday nights with my baby instead of parading around like a tart in town', this usually comes after friends have posted a photo of them on a night out.
She only surrounds herself with other mummy friends and seems to dislike those without kids. I travel a lot with work and she often has negative things to say about me going away, telling me I'm ridiculous but also telling me I'm not ready to be a mother.
I miss who she was before she settled down. There is not one hint of that person anymore and she is now the person she used to hate. Will she ever come back? Is this it now?
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JackRussells · 16/08/2016 09:27
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