To suddenly feel broody at 46

(34 Posts)
Stressedoldmom Mon 15-Aug-16 21:07:08

What on earth is going on with me?! I have a son who is 20, I had him when 'circumstances' were right but never felt actually broody.
I don't even have a partner....is this my peri-menopausal body telling me to reproduce quickly before it all goes.....

DerekSprechenZeDick Mon 15-Aug-16 21:09:13

Just remember the smell of shitty nappies, the shit spread all up a babies back, the loss of sleep ins and freedom

The bloodiness should disappear

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe Mon 15-Aug-16 21:16:16

It's strange isn't it? I often feel broody too

NavyandWhite Mon 15-Aug-16 21:17:33

I couldn't think of anything worse.

Puppy? smile

Stressedoldmom Mon 15-Aug-16 21:29:37

The idea of caring for a baby/toddler does fill me with dread, as does the thought of giving birth again. Just surprised by the strength of these feelings out of nowhere and wondered if it was common at my age.

CharminglyGawky Mon 15-Aug-16 21:43:34

Possibly, not something I've had experience of yet but my Grandmother got really broody in her mid 40's... My uncle is 12 years younger than the next youngest sibling and 18 years younger than his eldest sibling!

DerekSprechenZeDick Mon 15-Aug-16 22:36:24

Id get a puppy

VelvetSpoon Mon 15-Aug-16 22:44:53

I think it's actually quite common in your mid 40s especially if your children are now teens/ adults. Bloody hormones!

I'm 44, was v broody about 12-18 months ago but it seems to have mostly passed now thankfully! I was never broody either (my DC are 18 and 15 now, both were unplanned - I wanted children but on both occasions they were happy accidents, so I never did any of the ttc stuff) but for me I always wanted 1 more child. By the time I met someone suitable I was over 40. We talked about it and agreed it wasn't a good plan. Still a bit sad about it though, and I can't even get a puppy as I'm out of the house from 8-6 (minimum) every weekday.

wobblywonderwoman Mon 15-Aug-16 22:48:11

I'm 38. I had two very very close together.

My friend tried again at 41 - she has two. Now I am worried I am going to get that broody feeling again.. Gah..

No not for me. I have no freedom whatsoever. At one stage I had two babies who didn't walk. It was hard.

Yorkieheaven Mon 15-Aug-16 22:51:29

God almighty get a puppy. They are half the work and adore you. They sleep all night too.

roundandroundthehouses Mon 15-Aug-16 22:52:59

I'm the same age as you, with late/mid teens, and would be horrified at the thought. Last time I felt (very) vaguely broody would have been maybe mid-30s. So it definitely isn't universal!

RJnomore1 Mon 15-Aug-16 22:54:08

Do you want to borrow a teenager as a form of contraception?

glamourousgranny42 Mon 15-Aug-16 23:02:15

I'm nearly 47 with 2 children who are 15 and 23 and a grandaughter. I havent felt broody for years. I have a partner who I have been with for 3 years and had the snip shortly after we got together because neither wanted children. The other day he was saying how he would love to see me pregnant and how lush our children would have been and I felt quite teary that it wouldn't happen. Then I got real and breathed a sigh of relief!

Whateveryouwannacallme Mon 15-Aug-16 23:02:26

Its you getting ready to be a grandma smile

calamityjam Mon 15-Aug-16 23:05:44

I am 40 soon and sometimes feel broody. Ds 1 is 20 now and ds3 is 8. I had my tubes tied after the last one because I had 4 sections. It is the absolute finality of it for me that makes me broody I think.

NewRoadToHappinessxx Tue 16-Aug-16 08:06:54

I have 2 DS who are 21 & 20, got broody at 40 ended up with twin DS's followed by a happy accident DD - I'm 45 with twins who turned 4 a week a go and a beautiful little girl who turned 2 the day after - wouldn't change it for the world. I'm calmer and more relaxed than I was in my 20's and they keep me young.

Oh and I'm still broody!!!!!

tibbawyrots Tue 16-Aug-16 08:13:44

I'm 47 with a 20 year old DD and have been feeling broody for the last year. I think it's my body telling me it's your last chance, get cracking if you want to. 🙄

ProcrastinatorGeneral Tue 16-Aug-16 09:07:32

Definitely the hormonal surge. Just ride it out.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered Tue 16-Aug-16 09:15:26

I'm sure MN is full of harrassed parents who will lend you a teenager or three, or a tantrumming toddler, to help you deal with the broody feelings!

WoburnSands Tue 16-Aug-16 10:03:05

Women traditionally have had children right up until the menopause - this was the usual practice - one of my relatives had twins at 46/47. Nothing unusual in it at all! YANBU.

Catisagit Tue 16-Aug-16 10:04:39

I got broody as perimenopause started, so did a friend of mine. We are both childfree by choice, have never wanted kids and it was the weirdest feeling. Hormones. Ride it out. Or get a puppy....

Gottagetmoving Tue 16-Aug-16 10:07:01

Perhaps it is a sort of panic that you will soon be on the other side of your child bearing years. grin

practy Tue 16-Aug-16 10:08:08

Yes I got broody when peri menopause started too. I think it is hormonal, and will pass. Just think of being in your 60s with a moody teenager, that will counteract the broodiness.

peaches222 Tue 16-Aug-16 16:55:21

I had been trying for another baby with dh for a number of years but after too many heartbreak decided to stop. I am now 45 and a grandmother. My gs lives with us and I look after him (his mother have him up) but it is hard. He is only 14 months and I am absolutely knackered 😂😂😂 You forget all the hard work until you're faced with it again 😂😂😂 Wouldn't change it for the world though

JudyCoolibar Tue 16-Aug-16 17:14:40

I know someone who had her second child at 54 after several miscarriages. I still think she was mad. She went back to work full time soon after and her child was largely brought up by nannies.

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