AIBU to be sad with DM

(8 Posts)
MoonStar07 Mon 15-Aug-16 10:25:36

So DM lives far. She was due to come visit today to spend time with me and the kids and stay for the week. It was only decided mid last week and I reorganised this week and I have a lot on. No help at all and I was looking forward to spending time with her and for her to see her GCs. Thankfully had not told the GCs Thooght would be a nice surprise. I'm not in a good place mentally feeling lonely and isolated. So I really needed her. She doesn't know I'm in this place as I was hoping when she came the few days would help me get through a few things that I can't do with young kids (I have boxes and clothes to sort) I just get zero time to myslwd husband works long hours. I was also looking forward to the company and doing a few things. Mum is a widow she has a new partner. Mum has been super super super busy she works really long hours often starting at 530am. I wanted her here so she could rest too as it's a family business she can't get away/switch off. Anyway her partner has now taken a few days off and she text this morning to say she's going to stay home and rest and as partner has a few days off (last min) she'll spend time with him. That in itself isn't an issue I'm so happy she has someone. I know she's exhausted. Completely exhausted. I wasn't going to ask much of her here at all. She would be resting and we could chill and talk. I'm so sad and dissapointed she's not coming. It's actually given me an awful headache and I've got bad anxiety at the thought of reorganising the week (I cancelled lots of playfates) I know AIBU I'm sad and being silly

Babyroobs Mon 15-Aug-16 10:31:32

I think it's really understandable that you feel the way you do as you were looking forward to it. However it does sound like she's really exhausted as I doubt she would let you down otherwise. She perhaps feels it would be more exhausting being with young kids and that she wouldn't get a rest. I can understand why she's changed her mind but YANBU to feel upset.

MoonStar07 Mon 15-Aug-16 15:03:17

Thanks Baby

mrsfuzzy Mon 15-Aug-16 16:34:20

perhaps you can rearrange something soon, sounds like you both need a break tbh flowersbrew hope it'll be soon for you.

MoonStar07 Mon 15-Aug-16 16:46:25

Thanks Mrs Fuzzy! Yes we do lol. Bless DM her more than me! I've sorted some boxes around the kids today. Now the focus turns to tea time! Least the sun is shining!

Tomselleckhaskindeyes Mon 15-Aug-16 17:00:27

You need to tell your mum you are not in a good place though. I would want to know if my kids weren't in a good place. Could you contact people to reinstate your play dates?

MoonStar07 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:16:31

I spoke briefly to mum today. I said it was all ok I didn't want her to feel bad. I don't really want to pressure her at the moment she's tired

fastdaytears Mon 15-Aug-16 21:20:48

She will want to know. However much she has on, she will want to know how you are.

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