To think that taking a picture of her kid was weird?

(84 Posts)
Grannypants1 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:15:49

So I don't have a vendetta against photographs, let me clear that up. But recently I saw one of the mums on my facebook write a post about her DD. Now usually I actually quite like her. She does have a condition in which she gets headaches and we do get daily updates and the occasional selfie of her lying down looking sad or a photo of her on every single hospital visit, but apart from being a little bit of a trufflepig for tragedy she is actually a fairly nice women. But she did something and I can't get over how weird I think it is. DD must be 8 or 9 and on mums birthday picnic she slipped on the quarry and fell 20ft into the rocks. She must have been absolutely terrified! Emergency services come and took DD to the hospital and it was found that there were no injuries apart from a scratch. Great news for everyone. But then she wrote a post on facebook about DD under the heading 'sorry I haven't replied to anyone today' and along with the post is a picture she has taken of her child in the ambulance strapped up, eyes closed and looking close to death?! Part of me wonders at what point in the journey to the hospital (at which point she didn't know if her DD was okay and must have been full of panic) did she stop to take a picture of her little one. surely the only purpose of taking that can be to post online for sympathy? Does anyone else find it a bit odd, that taking a picture occurred to her at all? Or Aibu?

Illstartexercisingtomorrow Sun 14-Aug-16 09:19:36

I think people who post endless selfies and updates about every detail in their (mundane) lives lose sight of what is normal. And regardless of the situation their first instinct is to post on FB as that's where they have more connections than real life - she would have got endless messages of support and attention from FB whereas not so many in real life. So whilst for me it would be insane, for her it is probably in line with her view on life

Minisoksmakehardwork Sun 14-Aug-16 09:20:03

Some people are drama llamas and need everyone to know everything about their tragic life. So posting a picture of her dd is one way to gain likes/comments/attention.

I don't think there is anything intrinsically wrong in taking the photo - I'd probably do similar to show dc (much) later and have done when they've had minor operations.

But sharing it is a step too far for me. I just couldn't. Same as I can't check into a&e if we have a visit there because quite honestly I've other things on my mind at the time.

I might share later than X happened and the result is Y, but everyone's ok kind of thing. Simply to save me telling all my friends and family who might have half a story and be fretting.

My friend sent me a pic of his DD in hospital. It wasn't posted on Facebook (as far as I can remember). I think some people like documenting about their kids lives.
It isn't something I would do though

Grannypants1 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:28:23

I know for a fact it was like a 10 minute ambulance ride, I just don't get why in that short time when you think your kid is seriously hurt, you would even think to take a picture. Maybe a bit later when you know its ok and it is something to show family. But this is essentially at the point when you would expect the sky to be falling down around you in panic and she has stopped for a selfie.

BastardGoDarkly Sun 14-Aug-16 09:28:24

No I can't imagine considering taking a photo of my child in the back of an ambulance. It doesn't surprise me though, pulling your phone out seems to be coming instinct in any situation to some people.

Thefitfatty Sun 14-Aug-16 09:28:33

I posted pics of DS while we were waiting to get his leg put in a plaster cast, and while the doc was plastering it. I guess I just wanted friends and family to know what was going on....blush

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sun 14-Aug-16 09:31:42

My dd was pretty ill at the start of the year. She was transferred to a bigger hospital and I took photos of the journey and of her before and after surgery.

I took pictures of everything.

The purpose was that I didn't know if she was going to be OK and I wanted photos of what could and nearly was her last days.

My dd and ds died years ago and I took photos of their last days too. I even have pictures from after they died.

Different people do different things for different reasons.

So what if she wants a bit of sympathy or attention from her friends. That's what friends are there for.

NavyandWhite Sun 14-Aug-16 09:31:43

Sounds like she need attention.
Facebook is a cheap way of getting it.

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot Sun 14-Aug-16 09:33:30

I think when something frightening happens like that it's normal to want to talk about it, just to get it out of your system if nothing else, and these days a lot of people do their "talking" on Facebook rather than in real life.

But you're right, posting the photo doesn't seem quite right. It looks very attention seeking. People would see the photo of the girl looking half dead before they read the accompanying story, and would be shocked and upset. And of course the girl herself might be embarrassed about that photo being shown to all friends, family and casual acquaintances.

StackladysMorphicResonator Sun 14-Aug-16 09:35:54

If I were the paramedics I'd be hmm if I saw a parent take a photo of their child in the back of my ambulance. Weird thing to do!

TellMeSomethingNew Sun 14-Aug-16 09:38:18

VV odd. Sounds like she has Münchausen syndrome or something like that. Or she's just a fucking drama llama big attention seeker.

Amelie10 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:38:25

*Sounds like she need attention.
Facebook is a cheap way of getting it.*

Agree. If people are close enough to know information when something is serious you phone or text them.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 14-Aug-16 09:39:47

It's odd to me but as a pp said ; she needs attention and used her dd's accident as a means to an end , did she get lots of replies OP?

Bumpngrind85 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:42:52

"Trufflepig for drama" grin

Grannypants1 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:46:27

Probably about 50 odd, all 'OMGs' and 'get well soon' she has given an oscar speech about thanking everyone for their love and support and wished everyone love and light.

CheckpointCharlie2 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:50:09

flowers for Elsa sad

NavyandWhite Sun 14-Aug-16 09:50:21

It's not normal behaviour that is it OP?

I am very private about stuff I post on FB and that's my choice, other people post a lot of stuff that has happened throughout their day, I like reading about it.

But in this instance this woman sounds very extreme. Why would you post a picture of such drama when the child was ok?

Why would you post it anyway?

DixieNormas Sun 14-Aug-16 09:51:19

I have a few fb friends like this, we even got to see one of them being born. Lovely pic of the crowning head.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 14-Aug-16 09:51:21

She got the attention she wanted.

Love and light indeed.<tuts>.

Pearlman Sun 14-Aug-16 09:52:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DixieNormas Sun 14-Aug-16 09:52:45

One of the dc being born that is

Grannypants1 Sun 14-Aug-16 09:53:17

Crowning head pic takes the biscuit!

SvalbardianPenguin Sun 14-Aug-16 09:53:52

DD recently had an operation, one of the fathers took a picture of his son in a hospital gown and posted it on his FB, he told his wife he was posting a picture of the 'boy in a dress' hmm

heknowsmysinsheseesmysoul Sun 14-Aug-16 09:54:27

There was a similar thread a few weeks ago. It got quite heated so brace yourself!

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