My sons who are v young teenagers have a friend the same age. They only see him in holidays as they go to school and their friend is home schooled. Their friend loves spending time with my boys. Yesterday he went out with us after telling his mother where he was (my boys both saw the texts and heard the calls) however he didn't tell her we were going swimming because he knew she'd say no and then lied about his mother being home so my DH wouldn't drop him back at his door. Later that evening his father came round saying he'd been hunting the village for hours saying no one knew where he was and denied the lad had told him mother. We were planning on all going out the next day Pokemon go hunting (yes I know) but his parents say he couldn't go because of his behaviour over the swimming. I was fine with that it's their son I am not going to interfere with their parenting choices.
However this morning I had a text from the mother asking me if my sons would ring him and say we weren't going out today as one of them was poorly as she had to go out with her daughter and she said she couldn't afford to have her son upset at her because he isn't allowed to come with us.
I said I wouldn't encourage my boys to lie but I was happy for them to call Their friend and say he couldn't come today because I had said no (because I had said to my boys prior to that I didn't want to take him out PG hunting because he had lied to my DH and I would have explained that to him when I next saw him that it was the consequence of his lies to me).
Also I felt a bit peeved because she had lied to her DH about knowing where he was. My boys duly rang and explained simply I had said no about him coming out with us today with no other explaination.
However I have now found out she is really angry because I wouldn't do as she asked and now her son is ignoring my boys and they are upset.
AIBU? Should I have done as she asked? I just didn't like her asking me to ask my boys to lie just so she didn't look like the bad guy. I don't know what to do now??
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Parent of child's friend asking my children to lie
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Mumofyoungteenagers · 12/08/2016 22:21
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