To ask why some people are so cruel?

(71 Posts)
Moochie01 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:19:58

My parents are visiting and took us out for a meal this evening. I offered to get the tip as they were settling the bill, but realised I had no cash so nipped out to the cash machine at a bank a few doors down.

I was rushing to get back to the restaurant so walked quickly, and apparently inadvertently overtook a man who had also been heading to the ATM. He had to queue for about two seconds while the lady at the other cash machine finished. As he got to the front of the queue he glared at me and said "you really need to lose weight you know". Now I know it's not really up there with all of the horrible things happening in the world, but AIBU to feel devastated by this? I've never had a stranger say something so intentionally hurtful to me, I don't know why anyone would think its ok to do that. I haven't managed to lose much baby weight and I'm quite conscious of it, so maybe just being over sensitive. I'm too embarrassed to even mention it to my husband, but I really just want to sit here and cry.

Mummyto2bubs Thu 11-Aug-16 22:21:57

He's a dick. Don't worry about it!
But tell your DH. I bet he thinks you look fab! flowers

monkeysox Thu 11-Aug-16 22:22:23

He's a cunt. Ignore flowers

Squirmy65ghyg Thu 11-Aug-16 22:24:37

Bullies feel shit and need to make other people feel shit make themselves feel better. What a miserable twunt. I bet you look great. And yes, tell your DH, sure he thinks you look beautiful.

Amelie10 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:25:37

Wow what a horrid man! Sorry you had to come across one of these idiots flowers

Scrumptiousbears Thu 11-Aug-16 22:25:57

You should have said "I can loose weight but you'll always be a cunt mate". Wanker!

Skooblies1 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:26:25

Some people have the ability to cut to the bone if they feel slighted. Petty little shit. Don't dwell on it. Some people are cunts, full stop.

HerdsOfWilderbeest Thu 11-Aug-16 22:26:58

He's a dick. And those nasty words will leave a bitter taste in his mouth and make him a worse person. Ignore him.

Claireabella1 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:27:12

It's hard to let things like that wash over you, but you need to. That man was a horrible bastard and said that knowing that it's generally a hurtful thing to say to anyone, true or not. He was going for maximum effect. Don't give it any more of your time.

Summerwood1 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:27:24

That was so horrible. It says a lot about what type of person he is. Hope you said something insulting back! So what,what other people think,2 fingers up to him.

Rifleponyandme Thu 11-Aug-16 22:27:27

I was in a hospital appointment with my grandmother and the receptionist said oh do u know if its a boy/girl i politely told her i wasnt preg but just had a baby nearly a year ago and she said oh right by the size of your tummy you would never know u werent pregnant shock

ThoraGruntwhistle Thu 11-Aug-16 22:28:04

He was put out by having to wait for a few seconds and decided it was acceptable behaviour to say something cruel and personal to you. His life must be so busy and important to not be able to wait. hmm

Some people are just fuckers. Take no notice of the ill mannered prick.

MammaTJ Thu 11-Aug-16 22:31:40

My reply would have been 'You need to think of better lines dear', but that's me! I have a mouth that manages to bypass my brain and on occasion that is a good thing.

I do always say though that when someone has to mention your weight, they have lost the argument. Satisfy yourself with that.

The time I have been called a 'fat bitch' in frustration because I argue well are too numerous to mention. So, he realised he was wrong and reached for the losers retort!

lightinmyheadyouinmyarms Thu 11-Aug-16 22:32:16

I was once walking with my friend (who is model tall, blonde and gorgeous) and a man said to me "look at your big tits bouncing when you walk" at the time I was about 18/19 a size 8-10 but had a chest (which wasn't overly huge) that was maybe a 34D...I swear I was so upset and felt humiliated. YANBU OP it's degrading to have anyone comment on your appearance and it's embarrassing. Please don't let it annoy or upset you. He's only trying to wind you up. I bet you're beautiful 😊

ItShouldHaveBeenJess Thu 11-Aug-16 22:36:58

Twat. So totally twattily twattish, it's beyond words. Sometimes, you have to accept that some twats people are having a bad day, and take it out on others. No 'happy' person makes unkind remarks to strangers. They just don't. Shake it off, gorgeous, and be glad you have your little family to return to. You have no idea what this guy is going 'home' to tonight.

chitofftheshovel Thu 11-Aug-16 22:37:20

He is a fuckwit. Baby weight or not (and a lot of us have had it/have it) NOBODY should be outwardly saying such shitty things to anybody. Bloody hindsight, you could have used the comeback "And you, sir are ugly, but my shape will change as and when I choose it to"
Honestly he's a dick. Tell your husband, and enjoy a cuddle better.

KateInKorea Thu 11-Aug-16 22:39:15

"Not as much as you need to lose your shit personality"

Obviously a very unhappy person.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 11-Aug-16 22:43:19

Would he have said that to an over weight man. No I don't fucking think so, otherwise he'd just get floored. The horrible nasty twat.
flowers.

BodsAuntieFlo Thu 11-Aug-16 22:45:19

I will probably be flamed for this, but overweight people actually do know their overweight! They don't need anyone else to point it out. He was rude OP. We flew long haul a few weeks ago and someone asked for a seatbelt extender, FFS you'd have thought they'd asked for drugs the way some people reacted. The cats bum faces said it all.

mumtofivepreg Thu 11-Aug-16 22:45:44

what an absolute knob jockey !!! Pay him no mind! What a horrible nasty spiteful person. Please dont be sad- he has to wake up every day and live with being an utter sh*t- he loses at life, do Not lose any weight on his account
keep ur chin up XX

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 11-Aug-16 22:46:01

You can lose weight, but his personality will always be grotesque, and you could be the most gorgeous looking person ever to Grace the planet, but if you've got a shitty personality then good looks aren't worth a carrot

mumofthemonsters808 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:46:44

He's a knob head, but let it go, please don't beat yourself up, you could have been a Victoria's Secrets Angel and he would have still insulted you.I bet he wouldn't have said that to a six foot, muscly bloke, no he would of just waited patiently.PRick.

Firsttimer82 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:47:38

Being him is both his crime and his punishment. Are you entirely sure, seriously, that he didn't have MH problems? I was once told, at a cash point actually, that my make up was shit and I looked ridiculous!!!!

I would have said "Boys are always horrible to girls they fancy!"

I bet you are gorgeous!!!

Moochie01 Thu 11-Aug-16 22:47:45

Thank you all so much, very comforting messages! I've been sitting here with watery eyes all evening feigning hay fever, but I think time to let it go now.
As shocked as I was, I managed to ask him if he had a mum or a sister and how he'd feel if someone spoke to them that way. I really wish people would stop to think about things like that before opening their mouths. Deep down I know he was just a horrible twat and that he shouldn't be allowed to ruin my evening, just genuinely saddened by what some people think is acceptable behaviour. Thanks again! smile

BastardGoDarkly Thu 11-Aug-16 22:49:14

What a spectacular arsehole!

Agree with scrumptious you can lose weight (if you want to) he'll always be a cunt flowers

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