Does Facebook have ouija powers?

(16 Posts)
PinkyCloudMax Thu 11-Aug-16 18:37:12

Now, obviously I won't go saying this on FB, but, does anyone else get a bit hmm by the 'Dear dead person' type posts on there?

I totally understand that people are grieving, and wish they could talk to their dead loved ones. I also understand that it can be comforting to have others know how you feel, especially if it's a special day in relation to the person who you have lost.

However, AIBU for being a bit bemused by people addressing their dead friends and family directly on FB as if Mark Zuckerberg has created an online porthole to the afterlife?

Doinmummy Thu 11-Aug-16 18:39:54

I'm a bit hmm and confused at most stuff posted on FB .

ajandjjmum Thu 11-Aug-16 18:40:39

It's the modern day version of 'Hatched, Matched and Despatched' in the local press.

Whathaveilost Thu 11-Aug-16 18:40:49

I get you! I understand it can being comfort but I will never stop feeling baffled by a post that says "Happy Birthday to grandad in heaven. Hope you ae havung a good one!" Same with posts that says happy birthday my ickle handsome prince who is one today!! Get prince of fb! He's too young!

Champagneformyrealfriends Thu 11-Aug-16 18:41:58

This and happy birthday posts to people without fb. But in general I find fb attention seeky and irritating.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Thu 11-Aug-16 18:42:40

Yes yabu.

I sometimes write and talk as if my children are around and can hear me. It's comforting to me. Although I don't have fb I probably would do it if i did just to have it out there that my children were real people and to have them acknowledged.

What people do when they grieve is not bemusing to me. Whatever helps someone through the bad days can't be a bad thing.

Tomselleckhaskindeyes Thu 11-Aug-16 18:44:25

I'm on a break from Facebook because it is irritating so much so I agree!!!

SoupDragon Thu 11-Aug-16 18:45:40

Yes, I'm sure they are doing it because they think their dead loved one can read it rather than, oh i don't know, just finding it comforting... hmm

deVelvet Thu 11-Aug-16 18:49:02

The status bar actually asks 'What is on your mind?'

Therefore people type up what is on their mind

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes Thu 11-Aug-16 18:55:56

Even if it's not something you personally would do it seems unkind to criticise someone dealing with grief/missing a loved one in whatever way helps them and doesn't harm anyone else.

I'm a bit bemused by your statement "obviously i won't go saying this on Facebook...."

So you clearly know it's potentially going to offend folk but you're fine with anonymously bitching about it and cracking jokes about Zuckerberg and the afterlife? Bravo confused

PinkyCloudMax Thu 11-Aug-16 18:56:56

Ok sorry, good points. I apologise.

AaronBleurgh Thu 11-Aug-16 18:59:24

I tell you what's seriously weird about FB. The other day I was out shopping and bought a pair of boots. When I got home, I was on FB and an advert was there with my brand new boots in it! I was shock

NerrSnerr Thu 11-Aug-16 19:00:19

When my sister died one of her final requests was that we completely deactivated her FB as she didn't want us to read all the soppy people wishing her a happy birthday etc as she'd never read it. I'm bloody glad we did that.

fourquenelles Thu 11-Aug-16 19:34:24

Thank you for acknowledging that you might be a bit U here. My DH died 7 years ago this New Year's Eve and every year since on his birthday and his date of death I post a status on FB that just says that he is remembered. It's comforting and I was once told by my dear old dad that people don't truly die until they are remembered by no-one. It harms nobody.There's lots of crap on FB it seems churlish to be offended by something like this.

Nofunkingworriesmate Thu 11-Aug-16 19:59:20

My mum and dad were killed my drunk driver 3 days after I gave birth to their first grandchild (they were only in town to visit me) and I like to put up pictures of them on birthdays and annerversaries, I don't generally address directly them directly but state that 'I miss you' , it helps because after a few years people forget and it allows work collegues to know why you may be a bit distant/sad on odd days when it's too hard/inappropriate to announce on the staff room for example. Yes I do feel a bit silly doing it and now I know it pisses people off I will stop

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Thu 11-Aug-16 20:02:50

Don't stop doing it if it brings you comfort nofunk the people who would get pissed off with you remembering your parents aren't worth considering flowers

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