To consider removing my friendship. (sorry for the long post)
I have been really good friends with Friend 1 for 6 years and Friend 2 for 2 years. Personally, I feel like they have recently become bad friends. However, I do tend to over think things and get paranoid over silly things.
About a year ago we all decided to do a house share as we all want independence and to save and be away from parents and we all had full times jobs. So F1, F2 another friend F3 and I moved in and at first it was good, then I started to notice little things like having to badger F1 and F2 for the money for the bills and them not doing the chores and gardening. Halfway through our tenancy we got notice from our landlord that he was selling the house but could move us to an alternative house down the road and mistakenly I ignored the warning signs and signed up for another year.
I realised as soon as I moved my stuff into the new house. They left their moving to the last movement refused to pack any of the kitchen stuff, so on the last day they had to move all their things. F3 and I went to get the kitchen stuff and when we got back he found a fekking not saying that F1 was going to spend the night at OH and F2 was going to skype OH (still in the house) and to move the rest of their stuff into the house. We were furious, I knocked on doors and phoned but got no answer but had no choice but to move their stuff as the house needed to be emptied for a deep clean. F3 helped a little bit but had to pop off to his night job and often comes back near passing out.
By the time I finished I had to make a quick meal and get to bed as I had to be up early for work. After work, I got back to find another note in the kitchen saying not to make a mess in the kitchen as the OH was coming around for the weekend. Now I admit it was not a tidy kitchen as I had no time to clean up from dinner but it was not a dump just a chopping board and other dirty utensils on the work top and I suppose a few crumbs.
From then F1 spends most of their times with OH and their friends and ignores invites to do house night or go out. F2 barely comes out of the bedroom and does nothing after quitting her job. It is always me that suggests doing things or does anything and if I ever need any help I am just ignored. I feel they have become selfish and rude toward me and F3. I am hurt and confused why they have been treating me like a skivvy. Now I have to live in this house for another year and I feel like I should remain friendly but remove all feeling and connection to them, stop offering to do things together as they obviously don’t want to spend time with us.
Or am I just investing too much into this friendship and being unreasonable in expectations.
AIBU?
AIBU to remove my frindship
Mosseywossey · 09/08/2016 19:55
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Oh no please don't get me wrong, I totally understand everyone has their own lives and things and I do my own thing But before we moved in we used to go out Etc
Great idea about the housework, we do have a chore chart but it is ignored but will defiantly give the washing up box a go. Thanks 
The naze73 cockwobles I love it!!!!! Yeah I've been thinking about and while they are great people they have turned sour and I'd rather Just leave it. And an update I messaged them about doing a house meeting to get the Internet sorted and other things with the houseand I got a whiny 'can you do it all and we settle up with you later but make sure it cheap '
I have quite politely refused saying I'm too busy, and I have put f1 dirty things to the side( been there a week). And I have already had moaning
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