Long time reader first time poster. I'm aware that this sounds like an awful soap opera story line but it's sadly true so please bear with me.
Background first , my mum and I have had a very up and down relationship. She wasn't the a great mum when I was a child. I lived with my dad and only saw her once a year. My dad died and I went to live with her in my pre-teens. We argued a lot I was a typical teen. She also reacts like a teenager, she can be fine until something doesn't go her way and then she will shout and slam doors and she can sulk for days. I also had a role in the family business which my mum owns we have different idea on how to handle things which meant we spent a lot of time together but fought more as well.
In my early twenties I gained some inheritance and bought my own home which gave us some much needed space. I also gained some shares in the business which gave me more control and our relationship improved. I also married my DH. DH tolerates my mum for me and is always polite and kind to her but he doesn't like her much as he doesn't like the way she treats me sometimes.
So to now I am over 7 months pregnant. My mum is excited for the most part. However I am really struggling with sickness and back pain and I have had to really reduce my work hours.
My mum call at our house Sunday lunchtime saying she needed me to sign some paperwork. When she got here she actually had a cabinet and some drawers with her in the back of one of our work truck. I asked her why and she said that she needed us to store them for her. I told her we didn't have room. She started shouting saying that we had to take them as she needs the worktruck for another job. I told her she shouldn't be using the work truck for personal things anyway especially if it's needed for another job.
She started crying so DH helped her unload the truck and we told her we would leave them outside in our yard till Sunday night and if she didn't move them DH was going to break them down on Monday morning and use them for firewood as we are fed up of her dumping things on us and expecting us to sort it out. She said we were being unfair and she was never speaking to us again. She left the stuff on our yard and drove off.
So this morning they are still outside. We called her and she didn't answer. So DH moved half the stuff into our garage. My mum arrives at lunchtime without the work truck whilst DH had popped to the shop and started screaming because she thought we had broken her stuff and burnt it.
I tried to explain to her that we hadn't broken her stuff yet but she has to move them now. She didn't have the truck and wanted us to hold on to them. I said no. She told me that she hated me and the baby and its my fault for reducing my work hours. I told her to calm down and she pushed me and I fell and landed on my bum. I stood and walked away from her back into the house.
I think she pushed me on impulse rather than to deliberately hurt me as when I fell she looked terrified when it dawned on her what she had done and she said sorry instantly.
She shouted sorry at me through the window until DH arrived. He asked her what had happened and she told him she had made a horrible mistake and she wasn't sure I was ok and that I would never forgive her but she was sorry then she left.
I am upset. Her stuff is also still on my yard. So would I be unreasonable to break down her stuff (with DHs help) or would that be petty and probably make a bad situation much worse.
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Arguing with my mum. Can I break her stuff?
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Dancedog · 08/08/2016 15:50
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