Am I just over thinking this?

[Justwanttoweeinpeace]

Ex uni friend got in touch through Facebook recently after she saw some pictures on my feed and realised we live really close to each other now.

She suggested a meet up. Not been in contact for years and not majorly close at uni. We have similar aged kids and I thought it'd be nice to have a play date today. Thought no more about it.

Went on FB today to confirm and found out she's unfriended me!

First thought was - weird but whatever.

Second thought was - omg what horrible thing did I do in the past, does everyone hate me now?

And I'm stewing.

Please can someone hand me a grip?

Thanks!

[Trills]

So she approached you...

Then she suggested meeting up...

Then she didn't cancel, just unfriended you so you couldn't send here a message?

That is very weird.

Maybe she's been banned from Facebook.

Your reaction of what horrible thing did I do in the past? makes no sense at all though. If you'd done a horrible thing in the past then she would have not contacted you in the first place.

[Amelie10]

It's probably a mistake. I've mistakenly unfriended people while clicking through and also friended people by fb stalking

[Justwanttoweeinpeace]

Trills - in sure you're right. But assuming you're in the wrong when stuff like this happens, that's normal right? Even if it's not rational.

[AntiHop]

If she did it deliberately then she's the one with the problem, not you.

[RubbleBubble00]

was there a big time gap between her suggesting you meet up and you replying?

[QuiteLikely5]

Maybe she took her account down?

[SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh]

Is she still on FB though?

She might have needed to delete her account completely.

[thecatsarecrazy]

Maybe she's one of those strange people that I seem to come across who speak before they think. " if you ever need a lift to work let me know, if there's anything I can do give me a shout, oh I have an old laptop you can have I will drop it round later, I will pop my phone number round later" all said by same person none of them she meant . And my uncle last week told my dad he would be round last week to see me and my boys, so I stayed at dads Saturday and Sunday. No word, not a sausage. He turned up Monday when I had gone home.

[Justwanttoweeinpeace]

Gap of about a week. Not checked to see if she still exists. Embarrassed to say but I can't remember her married surname. We have friends in common so I could dig a bit.

TBH I've got better things to do but the unfriending has just really knocked my confidence.

[fascicle]

So you didn't message her to agree in principle to a meet up? So she might be thinking that you weren't interested because you hadn't replied? If so, I wouldn't take it personally (although sounds like she might have done).

[redskytonight]

So how far did you get with organizing this meeting up?
If it was literally at the point of ..
Her: Good to hear from you again, we must meet up
You: That would be great. How about a playdate with the DC?
Her

That sounds like she's had cold feet. How friendly were you? Would you say she is confident round other people? I have to admit I've got in touch with people, arranged the meetup and then wondered what on earth I was doing (though I didn't just vanish off the face of the earth).

If you've got to the point of swapping mobile numbers and/or organizing a place and time, I'd just say she doesn't want to continue your friendship via FB (I only use FB for people I don't actually see in RL).