Am I just over thinking this?

(12 Posts)
Justwanttoweeinpeace Mon 08-Aug-16 08:43:09

Ex uni friend got in touch through Facebook recently after she saw some pictures on my feed and realised we live really close to each other now.

She suggested a meet up. Not been in contact for years and not majorly close at uni. We have similar aged kids and I thought it'd be nice to have a play date today. Thought no more about it.

Went on FB today to confirm and found out she's unfriended me!

First thought was - weird but whatever.

Second thought was - omg what horrible thing did I do in the past, does everyone hate me now?

And I'm stewing.

Please can someone hand me a grip?

Thanks!

Trills Mon 08-Aug-16 08:56:01

So she approached you...

Then she suggested meeting up...

Then she didn't cancel, just unfriended you so you couldn't send here a message?

That is very weird.

Maybe she's been banned from Facebook.

Your reaction of what horrible thing did I do in the past? makes no sense at all though. If you'd done a horrible thing in the past then she would have not contacted you in the first place.

Amelie10 Mon 08-Aug-16 08:56:09

It's probably a mistake. I've mistakenly unfriended people while clicking through and also friended people by fb stalking blush

Justwanttoweeinpeace Mon 08-Aug-16 09:06:23

Trills - in sure you're right. But assuming you're in the wrong when stuff like this happens, that's normal right? Even if it's not rational.

AntiHop Mon 08-Aug-16 09:09:57

If she did it deliberately then she's the one with the problem, not you.

RubbleBubble00 Mon 08-Aug-16 09:19:23

was there a big time gap between her suggesting you meet up and you replying?

QuiteLikely5 Mon 08-Aug-16 09:20:43

Maybe she took her account down?

SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh Mon 08-Aug-16 09:26:59

Is she still on FB though?

She might have needed to delete her account completely.

thecatsarecrazy Mon 08-Aug-16 09:33:49

Maybe she's one of those strange people that I seem to come across who speak before they think. " if you ever need a lift to work let me know, if there's anything I can do give me a shout, oh I have an old laptop you can have I will drop it round later, I will pop my phone number round later" all said by same person none of them she meant confused. And my uncle last week told my dad he would be round last week to see me and my boys, so I stayed at dads Saturday and Sunday. No word, not a sausage. He turned up Monday when I had gone home.

Justwanttoweeinpeace Mon 08-Aug-16 11:31:09

Gap of about a week. Not checked to see if she still exists. Embarrassed to say but I can't remember her married surname. We have friends in common so I could dig a bit.

TBH I've got better things to do but the unfriending has just really knocked my confidence.

fascicle Mon 08-Aug-16 11:43:08

So you didn't message her to agree in principle to a meet up? So she might be thinking that you weren't interested because you hadn't replied? If so, I wouldn't take it personally (although sounds like she might have done).

redskytonight Mon 08-Aug-16 11:46:38

So how far did you get with organizing this meeting up?
If it was literally at the point of ..
Her: Good to hear from you again, we must meet up
You: That would be great. How about a playdate with the DC?
Her <unfriends you>

That sounds like she's had cold feet. How friendly were you? Would you say she is confident round other people? I have to admit I've got in touch with people, arranged the meetup and then wondered what on earth I was doing (though I didn't just vanish off the face of the earth).

If you've got to the point of swapping mobile numbers and/or organizing a place and time, I'd just say she doesn't want to continue your friendship via FB (I only use FB for people I don't actually see in RL).

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