We're in couples therapy at the moment. We've a "disconnect" around our wedding anniversary - DH wants to celebrate it; I just want it to be just another day. When I think back to our wedding day the strongest memories are:
- seeing my sister (we hadn't spoken for 3 or 4 years until that day)
- DH's brother (usher) turning up with a fat lip and a black eye after a fight a few nights before
- none of the ushers (DH's brothers) doing what we asked them to do so missing things we'd wanted to happen
- best man being incapable of getting DH to the venue so DH had to find his own way there
- best man arriving as my car pulled up at the venue (and i was 20 mins late)
- best man leaving his speech at the hotel
- crying as I walked up the aisle
- several babies screaming through our vows (as the ushers didn't do as asked and ask them to step outside)
- neither of DH's parents speaking to me all day
- my only grandparent refusing to come outside for photos
- DH's grandparents suddenly deciding they didn't want the food they'd chosen before the wedding and demanding something else be made specifically for them as the food was served
- nobody offering to buy me a drink (DH was bought several)
- my only bridesmaid had met a bloke at a club the week before and instead of bringing him to the evening do she left without saying anything
- DH wanting to stay at the venue until every other guest had left (3am - I was shattered)
- DH's parents being unhappy that a distant relative had turned down her invite so they arrived at the hotel at 9am the morning after the wedding to collect DH and took him to the relative's house for the day, leaving me alone.
On their own most of these are pretty minor, but all together they make a pretty unhappy memory for me that I don't feel like celebrating. I don't really like seeing photos or being reminded of the day more than 10 years later. DH doesn't understand and thinks I should find those things funny.
I'm not BU L, am I?
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