I'm in my early 40's and I have 3 younger siblings in their early 30's
I have 2 Brothers & 1 sister. My eldest brother turned 32 this year and is Autistic, mentally he's around 12 and much much younger emotionally.
He's not very verbal although he can communicate with his hands and the odd word. He lives with my parents, doesn't have any friends as he lives in his own world but he's very happy.
As a teen I always helped take care of him, and I do the same as an adult, I take him to his swimming class every Sunday morning and have done for 10+ years, it gives my elderly parents a nice break and when my parents pass away, he'll most likely move in with me.
Every year my brother goes on holiday with my family, myself, DH plus our 2 DC. I've never invited either of my other siblings on a holiday with us, however we've been on holidays as a family where everyone pays their own way etc
This year my youngest brother, who's 30 & single, no DC etc took elder brother abroad, it was the first time he's taken him abroad alone, just the two of them and they had a great time, difficult but DB1 loved every second & DB2 wants to make it a yearly think as well, for every Easter break.
We're all going to our parents this weekend and my Mother phoned to warn me that my sister is angry at my younger brother & I, for never taking her or her children away.
My sister is 35, she's a SAHP with a DH & 3 children all under 7, they've never been abroad as a family as they just can't afford it, she has asked before if we could take her eldest away with us and I've had to refuse as firstly it would be financially difficult for us to fund another person and secondly my 7 year old nephew is a bit of a terror, I can't keep my attention on my brother & a seven year old, it would just be a difficult trip & not a holiday
She can't compare herself to DB1 as he can't go away on his own or work to pay for his own trip, she has no right to be angry or upset at anyone.
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To take DBrother on holiday and not DSister
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HufflepuffsAreCool · 05/08/2016 20:30
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