To not fall put with my grandma

(29 Posts)
ThisUsernameIsAvailable Thu 04-Aug-16 00:59:24

My grandma has left my grandad.

Biologically she isn't my grandma but they've been together since before I was born so she has always been my grandma, she still send us cards, keeps in touch etc, grandad doesn't, it's obvious grandma has always done this, not grandad.

My dad, who doesn't get in with her because she was the OW and grandad who's not takin the split well think I should now cut her out of my life because "she isn't really related to us"

But she is to me and my 4 children sad

ThisUsernameIsAvailable Thu 04-Aug-16 00:59:51

Out ..

ArmySal Thu 04-Aug-16 01:02:14

I'd say life is too short, stay in contact if you like her.

ThisUsernameIsAvailable Thu 04-Aug-16 01:06:21

Thank you smile

Just going to add that I'm 33 and they have children that are in their 40s so we're together a fairly long time

Trojanhorsebox Thu 04-Aug-16 01:10:30

She's been your grandma your whole life, she doesn't suddenly stop being that does she?

If you want to stop contact because of her behaviour or something she's said, fine, up to you - but not because she's not a biological relative. If that didn't matter before, it doesn't now surely. It's not for anyone else to dictate the terms of your relationship with her, however upset they may be about things themselves. You may have to be discrete about things, but that's about it in my book.

bushtailadventures Thu 04-Aug-16 05:05:19

She's been there all your life, of course you can keep in touch! My stepmum is the only Granny my kids have now, if her and my Dad split up I would want them to keep in touch. She has always treated them the same as her bio grandchildren and they love her. You can't just switch your feelings off because they are no longer together.

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 05:24:04

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hesterton Thu 04-Aug-16 05:30:19

Donaldtrump, you aren't even funny or witty as a troll. Just a weeny bit sad. Go to bed.

OP, don't drop your granny-if she loves you and your children, she will be devestated to lose you all. Can you try to explain this to your grandad?

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 05:34:13

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miwelaisjacydo Thu 04-Aug-16 05:50:54

donald what a horrid thing to say.

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 05:54:54

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miwelaisjacydo Thu 04-Aug-16 06:04:07

Yes but that is comleatly irrelevant to the thread. You are stirring and you know it. FYI I am not your mate.

miwelaisjacydo Thu 04-Aug-16 06:05:40

Completely

Henrysmycat Thu 04-Aug-16 06:06:50

Agree with Trojan horse.

ClopySow Thu 04-Aug-16 06:07:13

Oh Donald, wouldn't a wank be more satisfying than trolling?

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 06:10:55

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miwelaisjacydo Thu 04-Aug-16 06:14:05

Stop calling people your mate nobody is your mate here or on any other thread. .

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 06:19:55

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ClopySow Thu 04-Aug-16 06:22:21

I think the problem Donald, is that you have no mates, which is why you're still up at 6.20 trolling a mums forum.

Do you need to talk about it? (((((Hugz)))))

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol Thu 04-Aug-16 06:24:45

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miwelaisjacydo Thu 04-Aug-16 06:26:28

So sorry op your thread has been somewhat hijacked. I agree with Trojan.

Donald please go and get a hobby because you clearly need one.

ClopySow Thu 04-Aug-16 06:28:24

mean

Stick in at school when term starts. You'll get there wee man. I have faith in you.

Nannawifeofbaldr Thu 04-Aug-16 06:28:32

ThisUsername you are an adult you can have a relationship with anyone you like. It is not your Dad or Granddad's business.

If it's difficult for them, just don't discuss it with them.

EarthboundMisfit Thu 04-Aug-16 06:31:16

I would keep the relationship going.

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