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To tell my sister in law Her brother & I are splitting up?

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Hotwaterbottle1 · 31/07/2016 10:04

He just won't do it, burying head in sand. I'd just leave it but we have an annual outing that needs to be confirmed in a week & paid for (a lot of money for her) and I think she should decide knowing full facts as she may decide she wants nothing to do with me (she is volatile).

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TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 31/07/2016 10:15

Why not tell him (nicely, not aggressively) that if he doesn't want to do it you will, because of the upcoming do and you think it's only fair.

Is he sticking his head in the sand because he doesn't want the split as much as you do?

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Hotwaterbottle1 · 31/07/2016 10:20

Yes I will if he doesn't do it today.

He doesn't want split at all.

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davos · 31/07/2016 10:24

I would either say 'you need to speak to brother about arrangements'

Or

'I am not attending'

If she asks why, direct her to her brother.

Personally I would keep well out of telling his family anything if he isn't ready to.

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Hotwaterbottle1 · 31/07/2016 10:30

It's my GM that arranges it for all my immediate family so I'm definitely going! Inlaws come too most years. I'd hate her to spend money she can little afford so really thinking of her.

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davos · 31/07/2016 10:36

Then tell her her brother isn't attending. And she needs to speak to him.

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Hotwaterbottle1 · 31/07/2016 10:39

If we are still on speaking terms though he might so still going to pay for him incase! It's just her that may feel awkward.

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Smurfnoff · 31/07/2016 10:41

Your partner isn't happy about the split anyway. It's not as if you telling your sister-in-law will somehow damage an amicable separation process. Tell her - save her the money and yourself the hassle of a row later.

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Didiusfalco · 31/07/2016 11:06

Just tell her. She's going to find out at some point and it sounds like sooner might save her some cash.

If your partner doesn't want to split I doubt how his sister finds out is the biggest thing he has to worry about.

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Birdsgottafly · 31/07/2016 11:26

He obviously can't face upto saying that you are splitting out load, it makes it all to real.

I think that you should tell her (and any other family), so they can support him. If she's volatile, she may not be the best person to help him.

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Hotwaterbottle1 · 31/07/2016 20:13

He is at his mums now so fingers crossed, I have asked him to ask about the event