This is my very first post so please go easy on me...!<br><br>Okay I work in an all female environment on a team of about 20.<br><br>I've worked for the company over three years. My manager is about 28 and she can be snappy, abrupt and extremely straight to the point. There is a definate "clique" between her and the team she originally started with. She has worked for that company about ten years and been manager for about two years. Various new members of staff have struggled with her personality and manner and been taken aback at how abrupt she can be. She is extremely knowledgeable in the actual job so she was clearly chosen for her knowledge and expertise whilst not having any managerial skills. The manager above her is part of that original "clique"<br><br>I and another girl, let's call her Sarah job share on the team..although Sarah does slightly less hours than me. <br>We have been told that to try and boost morale, there is a team building event being organised. We are doing some kind of activity during the day, to be followed by a three course meal afterwards. We have all said that we would like the team building event to be on a Friday, as for one, it's nice to do something social at the end of a week, secondly, our team closes at 5pm on a Friday so it will be nice as we can have this meal and go home as opposed to going back to work (the rest of the week we close at 8pm)<br><br>A conversation took place about the team building when it was my day off and Sarah was there. Because Friday is a day she doesn't work and I do, she kicked up a fuss and said that she is not happy that it is being arranged on her day off. Also, she said that she doesn't have any childcare for her youngest on a Friday. She then suggested the team building take place on a Wednesday. Which happens to be my day off. Our manager then agreed that it is unfair that it takes place on a Friday and agreed that Wednesday was a good day. <br>My closest friend on the team, let's call her Poppy, said "well hang on a minute, how is that fair?"She then started to say that if it is unfair for Sarah to be asked to come in on a Friday, then how can it be fair to expect me to come in on my day off? I can only assume it is because I don't have very young children like Sarah does. My youngest is 14. However, on a Wednesday, I have commitments during the day, plus I also pick my son up from school and take him out for an early dinner. <br><br>My manager apparently said very little when faced with that comment except she said that I am different to Sarah as Sarah is unable to attend the team building due to childcare issues whereas I would be "choosing" not to attend. Poppy told me all this information via Facebook messenger. She then asked me whether I had noticed that our manager currently has "issues" with me at the moment.. I was taken aback by this comment and I said that I know what she's like but as per the past three years, I have just put it down to her personality and, quite frankly, crap managerial skills and not taken it personally.<br><br>That comment has stayed with me and I can't get it out of my head. Yesterday, I went into work and scrutinised her manner with me. She is very stressed at the moment for various reasons, but I noticed that she has become snappy and has a tone to her voice when she speaks to me. When I went into work yesterday, I had received a letter from a customer who I had been dealing with for a long time. The customer wrote this lovely long letter praising the work I had done and honestly it brought tears to my eyes. My manager had been copied in the email accompanying the letter and she hadn't even commented or acknowledged the fact I had received such lovely feedback and have been told by a customer that I am a fantastic asset to the company etc. I was really hurt by that. So I sent her an email asking her if she had received the letter from the customer? Which she completely ignored!<br><br>I spoke to my DH about it all last night. I told him that I was hurt that this team building event is being arranged all around Sarah, who is the least productive manager of staff on our team, and who also works the least hours and also the fact that another member of staff has noticed my manager has an issue with me. He said that I needed to start accepting the fact that for whatever reason, she dislikes me! I find that really hard to accept as I try my best to get along with everyone and although I'm not perfect I do a good job, keep my mouth shut and try not to be a controversial member of staff.<br><br>I am on holiday now until the middle of August and I am angry with myself for being sat agonising over this problem! I am debating whether or not to have a word with her when I go back and try and get to the bottom of what's going on.<br>I am putting steps in place to leave the company soon to undertake a completely different career path which my manager is aware of. Part of me is thinking that I should speak to her and part of me thinks I should just let it go and forget it.