Kind of posting for traffic but also AIBU for waiting to have kids?
Getting married next year, just bought a house which is leaving us with no spare money. Can't remortgage for a few years but when we do (judging by house price rises and online calculators) our mortgage payment will be half of what it is leaving us with an extra £1k a month.
DM expects us to start a family sooner rather than later (after the wedding) and has said that due to my age (33) we need to get cracking. Normally she's totally relaxed about things and has always said to do things in your own time.
Should I wait until 36 to start trying when we are more financially secure or just get on with it? DP and I both really want a family sooner rather than later but also we don't want to be scrimping when we do.
FWIW, I'm not being dictated to by DM but the fact that normally she's so blasé and relaxed about things like this but has said 'you ain't getting any younger' has got me thinking. I've said we would struggle to afford them but she and my DS said that financially it is never the right time. My DP also agrees with me but I would hate to be waiting too long and find out it's too late for us.
AIBU?
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SquidgyRedBall · 30/07/2016 00:30
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