It's not me that's doing the borrowing, by the way. I'm the lender (loaner?). Loaned someone a few hundred pounds a couple of months ago. Totally trusted this person, or wouldn't have parted company with my cash. We then parted company, though I still trusted him to repay. He has my bank account details and has twice said that he should be in position to repay "soon". But without giving a ballpark time frame.
I understand he has commitments (children, mortgage, etc) and I'm not in dire need of the cash. However, is it unreasonable of me to expect him to contact me every so often if he hasn't yet been able to repay me? Our last contact was one month ago and that's when he reiterated that he should be able to repay "soon". I told him that if he wanted to pay in instalments, that was fine. I figured it may make it easier for him, and would at least show me that he was committed to reimbursing me.
If he had been updating me, of his own volition, of how things were going, I wouldn't mind. I really wouldn't. It's the fact that there's an ocean of silence on the issue and I find it pretty rude. I consider how I would feel if I had borrowed money and I would be at pains to let the other person know I hadn't forgotten and still intended to repay!
Anyway, I just wanted to get others perspectives on this.
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Re: the etiquette of borrowing money?
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Oldisthenewblack · 29/07/2016 21:21
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