Hi all,<br><br>This is my first post in AIBU, so please be gentle. Posting here for traffic.<br><br>This evening when I was on the train coming back from work, I got a call from my childminder. She sounded very angry and upset and was ranting about how DS (3.5) has done a poo in his pants while having his dinner and not bothered to tell her and how this is just not done! She said that it was physically sickening to clean him as he is now a big boy and doing adult like poos. I tried to calm her down but the call was cut off once her rant was over. I am pretty sure she cut off the call, but to give her the benefit of doubt I sent her a message over WhatsApp saying 'I think the call got cut. If DS is done with his dinner, I will come and pick him up early' She didn't bother replying back. This was around 5pm and DS stays with her till 6.<br><br>When I picked him up at 5:15 I first asked her if she was ok as I thought her response to the whole situation was unreasonable. To give you some background, DS has been fully potty trained for the past 8-9 months and never has poo accidents. A few times he has wet himself if he is very engrossed in something and neglects going to the bathroom. In the past 3 weeks, we have been through an emotional roller coaster with a house move that went wrong because of building works delays and us having to live in a serviced apartment for 2 weeks. We have finally moved into our new house, but works are still going on and this has been bothering DS. DS has mentioned a few times that he isn't happy at the new place and wants to go back to the old house. He has been having more tantrums than usual and I am thinking that the poo incident is related to his emotional state. <br><br>Anyways, I pick him up and she says in a very irritated tone that I need to talk to him and that this has now happened 4 times! She has a habit of exaggerating everything, which I usually ignore, but this time I had to correct her to say that this is the 2nd time this has happened in the last 2 weeks and not 4 times. By this time DS has heard my voice and come out and then seeing him, she asks him to explain to me why he pooed in his pants. I could see DS was upset, so I told her that I shall speak to him later and I didn't want to stress him out when he was already upset. I also told her that I shall speak to her separately. At which point, she said fine and handed over his bag.<br><br>Due to various reasons, August will be the last month DS will be going to her. He is starting a new full time nursery from September. She has known this is coming for a few weeks now. Yesterday I gave the required 4 weeks notice. Not sure if this has somehow pissed her off. A few other parents are also leaving her and one of them mentioned to me how her behaviour changed when they told her they will be leaving.<br><br>AIBU to think that while DS's behaviour is not as acceptable, her reaction was a bit OTT? I mean what did she achieve by calling me and having a rant? I don't mind if she has some stern words with DS, but I know from experience that the best way to deal with such accidents is to not make a big deal about them.<br><br>I have spoken to DS about it and told him he needs to be more careful. It sounds as if both times he was in the middle of his dinner when it happened and he just sat there and continued eating instead of taking a bathroom break.<br><br>Sorry for the long post and thanks if you got this far <img border="0" src="/emo/te/1.gif" alt="smile" data-emoticon="smile">