FILs partner, call her Kate because that's easier than saying FILS partner haha, used to look after SILs sons, 4 and 7, at least once a week and would often have them for sleepovers yet would go months and months without even asking how my 2 sons, 2 and 4, are doing. She'd spend massive amounts of FILs money (she's on benefits fraudently and doesn't work) on my nephews, buying them toys, clothes ETC, but never a penny our way apart from Chrismas and birthdays.
Everytime I suggest doing things, E.G cinema, zoo, park; some things that don't cost money and other things that I'd happily pay for, she would say she couldn't because SIL and her sons would get upset that she didn't take them or do something with them separelty (although she does every week) But she is always taking those 2 out and not including my son. I've heard from her sons girlfriend (only 19 but I have a really good relationship with her) that Kate has even encouraged them to lie to me when I've asked about things and told her 2 sons, 17 and 19, and their girlfriends not to put things on Facebook with SILs children because she told me she was too busy to see my children that day but had taken nephews out. She has also told the girlfriend I've said no to her (the girlfriend) taking my sons and dogs(she loves my Labrador) to the park for a few hours even though she never asked me.
2 weeks ago Kate argued with SIL and since then has been refused contact with SILS children. IMO it's just SIL attention seeking and over reacting. Obviously missing having some kids around to spoil (she is still young, only in her late 30s and her 2 boys are basically adults so maybe that is relevant some how?) she messaged me a few days ago saying her and FIL feel bad for not seeing me, my partner and my boys much and they want to come up with some arrangement like they had with SIL where we go out like once a week to do something fun with the boys and then go out for food.
I know she is just doing this because she no longer has contact with her other GC and in all honestly am very bitter about it. I want to say to her no, she hasn't had any interest before now so why should I just allow her to swoop in but at the same time I don't want to deprive my sons of a relationship with their grandparents. I'm also worried that once SIL has gotten over her tantrum and wants Kate to start looking after her kids again then she is just going to drop my kids and stop seeing them.
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Heidibb · 28/07/2016 18:03
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