I have probably posted a VERY similar thread back in May but I am posting again because I need to rant.... It's happened again!
Ds goes to his dad for contact what was originally agreed, Wednesday overnight and one weekend night. The mid week overnight became mid-week just for tea because he doesn't like taking him to childcare on his way to work. Sometimes if he is seeing his DD from a pervious relationship on another night I am flexible so they can spend time together. If he is caught in traffic I am happy to rearrange at short notice.
The weekend is usually a Saturday night but if he wants to change to a Friday I almost always swap. In fact I can't think of a single time I have said no. The point I am making is I rarely have plans and am always flexible if I don't.
This weekend I have plans, I have a ticket to an event Saturday afternoon/night.
Last night Ex rung at 6 and said he was working late could he have DS today instead. I said yes sure, what time are you picking him up on Saturday?
He said, Oh I am not having him this weekend, I am going away for the weekend.
So I said are you joking me, I have plans on Saturday.
He says well you should have let me know.
Now AIBU or is the onus not on me to let him know I have plans (on the day I am not responsible for our son) but on him to let me know that he is cancelling access?!
AIBU also to think you don't just cancel access willy nilly and if you want to go away when you have contact you should arrange childcare!
The same thing happened in May and I missed out on the event that I had a ticket for. That incidentally was the last time I went out. I really don't go anywhere as I struggle for childcare it just seems so unfair.
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HairySubject · 28/07/2016 13:00
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