Ok so i have no idea what the pertinent bits were i missed out of the last thread and see not much point attempting a second discussuon. My phone died on the bus so i probably missed something relevant on the messages.
However for whoever i offended for wondering why people seem to hate pushchairs
A. DS is on 02 and NG. Not only can i not collapse his pushchair on my own due to his equiptment but also people tend to recoil for holding small people with tubes who tbey don't know so i wouldn't expe t anyone to help.
B. I think it's great our local train station which just had a huge upgrade has invested in two types of disabled toilets - standard extra access ones and ones with hoists. I think its ridiculous that i cannot pee anywhere with pushchair cos clearly i don't want to use the disabled toilets cos they're not meant for me, but i can't leave a clingy toddler ourside with all his equiptment given he's a tube puller and it's not the kind of area where i'd leave my purse. If i use disabled (with permission from keo holder and honesty about my reasons) or i leave door open and baby in front i get disapproved of but why does no one think about how many parents use shopping centres on their own with pushchairs? Just ine sodding cubicle in standard toilets big enough flr us both would be great! Ok if they had limited budget they'd prioritise other things but they just spent millions.
C. On buses the arguement of wheelchairs vs pushchairs is overdone and varies with each bus. Some of ours have designated pushchair areas, some make it clear you are expected to get off if a disabled person needs it. Fair enough. However in the posts of bloody mothers with pushchairs, where is the empathy of why many of us can't "just" collapse due to childs age, health, quantity, our own disabilities etc? Where is the arguement for more fold away seats cos able bodied non pushchair pushers are just as capable of walking as pushchaor pushers? I suspect its the assumption that what they need to do is more urgent.
However our first week out pf hospital (fingers crossed) i will have to important medical appoinments on different days in different areas which are two buses each way. I will leave early to accomodate lack of access but will still get tutted at for daring to use a bus with a pushchair at a time of day that is genrally not commuter to work time.
I'm not sire what else i wrote that was percieved offensive or omitted but pertinent and i'm fairly sure anyone who bothered opening this has died of boredome but it felt cathartic to me!
It does seem sometimes tgat anyone who has an opion is percieved as trying to put everyone else down. This bad thibg happe ed to .e is not a judgement on what happe ed to you, its just a persepctive on my day or life.
Anyway, i'm boring ever myself now
AIBU?
Pushchairs
hazeimcgee · 25/07/2016 21:09
I have had a bus driver look at DS and tell me i can get on if i collapse pushchair.
The answer is just to tell them your son has additional needs and the pushchair is equivalent to a wheelchair.
The issue with your last thread was in your opening post you were very angry at being asked to collapse your pushchair without mentioning you had a very good reason why that wasn't possible. People rightly get annoyed with people who think their right not to collapse their pushchair trumps a wheelchair user's right to occupy the dedicated wheelchair space on the bus. It looked a bit like you were trying to start a fight, but it seems now like it was a genuine mistake. 
Widdlin i got over it enough to claim DLA for him, though i cried when i did the first one. I think its just cos he doesn'r know it - he's just my flipping awesome hero - and i never want him to think anything sets his limits but him but then it is MY responsibility for him to own his issues. I assume his extra chromosomes all went into cuteness and awesomeness anyway 
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