Feel so sad for him. He has been so looking forward to having his party (6th) at a certain venue this year. We have had 5 acceptances, 5 can't make it and 5 non responses. I have had to pay for the minimum 10 anyway and feel so bad for DS that he will have so few of his classmates there.
I would have invited the whole bloody class if I'd known so few would turn up!
I feel so guilty because I find chat at the school gate very difficult and I wonder if that's why so few parents are bringing their DC. I don't talk to anyone as such, although always smile and say hi to anyone who acknowledges me but few do.
I suffer from crippling PTSD and OCD and find it so draining making small talk as I worry I will come across as a freak and will spend hours dissecting the convo afterwards in case I have said something out of place, so it's easier to just say nothing at all. Most of the other Mums have got into groups now and I am on the sidelines as usual. There was a group collection for the teacher, that was presented to her yesterday, I was not included in it, knew nothing about it and would have gladly given to it. Gave last year.
I am used to feeling lonely for myself but feel that as the other parents probably think I am up my backside or cold which is how I've been told I come across, that my little DS is being impacted too. He gets on well with everyone at school, his teacher describes him as a ray of sunshine and beautifully behaved so it's not that he is not liked so I assume it's because the other parents don't like me call me paranoid which I am! .
We have no family to celebrate with so his party was his celebration. I have older DC who all had parties and never did so few turn up to theirs but my anxiety was not so bad then and it was easier to talk to other parents while DC were lining there. At DS's school parents drop at gate.
Feel so shit and don't know how to change things for him.
AIBU?
Only 5 out of 15 invitees coming to DS's party tomorrow - and it's all my fault!
Dumpelstiltskin · 23/07/2016 17:44
Yes 5 is plenty for a six year old. He wont think about the others if you dont make a thing of it. Also as others say alot of people will be away at this time of year. Have lots of fun for the party and he'll love it. Try not to worry, no one is judging you. 
I don't think it's you. I wouldn't stop my child goin to a party just because I thought the mum was a bit quiet / detached etc. I think it's probably because it's July and people have holiday plans, families visiting or bbqs and such also there will no doubt a few who's invites are still at the bottom of the reading or sports bag (happened to me twice 
).
I have a friend with July twins. last year they invited 10 kids to their party only 2 could make it, kids are lovely and mum is outgoing, sociable very involved in the school and well liked.
It really is nothing to do with you.
Thank you all. I knew the date was a bit off. I had planned to do it on an earlier date but overheard another mother talking about her DS's being on that date and didn't want them to clash.
I do constantly judge myself. Feeling that you are a nutter does not help with the old self esteem!
Lambubbles so sorry that you are in the same situ. It is an utter bitch and not visible to other people, nor something you want people to know about, which makes it ten times harder to deal with .
Siblings will of course be welcome.
No contact details of the non RSVPers but hoping a few turn up, wouldn't chase them as don't want to appear desperate!
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