Aibu to buy a 'boys' toy for my daughter if she wants it?

(33 Posts)
DoesMyMarthaCliffLookBigInThis Sat 23-Jul-16 12:04:01

My daughter's 2nd birthday is coming up so I took her to the toyshop this morning to see if she showed interest in anything. She is quite a tomboy and prefers her 3 yo brother's cars etc over her dolls. The only things she showed an inkling of interest in were a batman imaginext set and a pirate ship imaginext.

I'm happy enough to buy either one for her but my friend who was with us was aghast. She said that buying such a boys toy for my daughter was just wrong and that people would think that I was basically just buying it for my ds but pawning it off on dd. Tbh, they do share all of their toys and don't have a problem doing so, but we still buy the toys individually for them iykwim. I was a bit hmm at the strength of my friends reaction! I'm going to get her the pirate ship anyway and sod what anyone else thinks but aibu for doing so?

GrimmauldPlace Sat 23-Jul-16 12:05:29

Obviously YANBU. I'm surprised you have to ask. Your friend is a twat.

DiamondInTheRuff Sat 23-Jul-16 12:07:43

Of course not!

I have a friend like that. She was shock when I bought DS a toy pushchair. A pushchair! Can you imagine? Obviously he's now scarred for life or something.

DropYourSword Sat 23-Jul-16 12:07:52

There's should be no such thing as boys toys or girls toys. They are just toys.

Nicnak2223 Sat 23-Jul-16 12:08:09

Yanbu but does she see alot of 'girls toys' or 'neutral toys' if she only sees your sons toys then yabu.

squoosh Sat 23-Jul-16 12:08:10

I'm sure Gráinne Mhaol the Pirate Queen would have been interested to hear that pirates was a boys' interest.

Buy your daughter the toy she's interested in and tell your friend to shaddap.

AlpacaLypse Sat 23-Jul-16 12:08:13

yanbu - and your friend's viewpoint is exactly what is causing so much trouble with children's gender identity. Don't get me started.... smile!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Sat 23-Jul-16 12:09:55

Your friend wants to try entering the 21st century.
We don't need to go down that road, surely
ie ladies drive cars men push prams and look after babies ect ect.
My dd had a mixture of toys.
From Dolls to tool sets.

BeMorePanda Sat 23-Jul-16 12:11:39

They aren't "boys toys" and your friend is a dick.

MissDuke Sat 23-Jul-16 12:12:59

Buy your dd whatever she wants, not what your friend thinks is appropriate. Hope she has a lovely birthday!

LeifTheLucky Sat 23-Jul-16 12:13:13

Yanbu! My dd has loved pirates since she was two. She is 5 now and she loves pirates, Spiderman and Storm troopers.
She has never been interested in pink princessy things or wearing dresses.

One of my friends was always horrified that I didn't force her into a princess dress and ban her from playing with cars. She seems to think it's a waste that she got a boy and I have a girl that I won't dress up like a doll! hmm

Buy whatever makes your Dd happy smile

I love pink glittery things so I've nothing against girly girls btw.

Creatureofthenight Sat 23-Jul-16 12:15:07

Buy your child something they want. Tell your friend it is 2016 and her attitude is distinctly last century.

ijustwannadance Sat 23-Jul-16 12:16:51

Toys are toys. Your friend is being ridiculous.

Fomalhaut Sat 23-Jul-16 12:17:01

Your friend is an idiot.
This is how girls are socialised to be nice. To play quietly , then to not make a fuss... It leads directly to women not standing up for themselves, changing the way they dress, act and look for men and society.

Buy her the toy! Teach her she can play with any toy she wants and that its just a silly opinion some grown ups have that some things are only for girls/boys.

I had a Lego pirate ship as a kid. Bloody loved it.

SpunBodgeSquarepants Sat 23-Jul-16 12:20:36

Buy whatever makes your DD happy.

DoesMyMarthaCliffLookBigInThis Sat 23-Jul-16 12:21:43

Phew! Thanks everyone I thought I was going mad for a minute. Spiderman is also one of dds favourites too! We do have some 'girly' toys which, incidentally, ds plays with more than dd. This also raised an eyebrow with the same friend recently when she called around and saw ds wheeling baby annabel in a pushchair hmm And she made a few comments when santa brought a joint pressie of a wooden toy kitchen last year (again, they both got individual presents too). It's strange because I would have thought her the least likely type of person tohave this attitude, she's normally very forward and open minded.

WorraLiberty Sat 23-Jul-16 12:24:23

You must be very very new to Mumsnet if you have to ask this question grin

Itsaplayonwords Sat 23-Jul-16 12:24:54

YANBU. You would be if you chose not to buy your daughter the toy she wants because it's a "boys" toy.

My daughter pushes a dinosaur around in a buggy, I'm not sure your friend could handle the confusion!

Itsaplayonwords Sat 23-Jul-16 12:25:43

Worra I'm fairly new to Mumsnet and the responses on this thread have made me like it more!

Ham69 Sat 23-Jul-16 12:26:04

Your friend is utterly ridiculous!

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sat 23-Jul-16 12:26:24

You must be very very new to Mumsnet if you have to ask this question

Haha very true worra grin

CatThiefKeith Sat 23-Jul-16 12:27:21

I think this sums it up nicely

BigBarry Sat 23-Jul-16 12:28:45

I didn't realise there were boys toys and girls toys. Never have I seen this classification being printed on the packaging

Kallyno Sat 23-Jul-16 12:31:13

"Boys' toys" don't exist, though toy companies have done a good job of persuading us otherwise.

Kallyno Sat 23-Jul-16 12:31:46

Whoops, cross posted with previous few posters!

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