Is it odd to take a 2 year old to a graveyard?

(46 Posts)
Rickstone Fri 22-Jul-16 21:57:09

My MIL thinks it's really unfair. I'm sorry for the lack of information, I'm just so upset.

iknowimcoming Fri 22-Jul-16 21:58:45

Your mil is bu. Nothing wrong that I can see. Sorry for your loss.

Pearlman Fri 22-Jul-16 21:59:06

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LIZS Fri 22-Jul-16 22:00:09

For a funeral maybe, to lay flowers no.

JeSuisLeLoup Fri 22-Jul-16 22:00:33

No. I see plenty of children and people of all ages at the cemetery

Sorry for your loss

A1Sharon Fri 22-Jul-16 22:01:02

For a family walk on a Sunday we used to walk to the graveyard. Spent ages there 'visiting' Granny and just wandering around the place.
We loved it!

VerbenaGirl Fri 22-Jul-16 22:01:06

Not at all odd. Xx

Natsku Fri 22-Jul-16 22:01:29

No its not odd at all, just be prepared for questions (although less likely with a 2 year old)

A1Sharon Fri 22-Jul-16 22:01:31

Should have made it clearer that it was 30+ years ago, and my parents took us.

Inthepalemoonlight Fri 22-Jul-16 22:02:56

No, I always have my 2 year old. If I didn't bring him with me I couldn't go as there is nobody to look after him. I haven't given it a second thought.

throwingpebbles Fri 22-Jul-16 22:03:06

I can't see any reason why it would be odd.
In fact I think it's perfectly fine

My two year old daughter likes to stand by our local graveyard gates as her best friend ( a squirrel ) likes to sit on them. She likes to see the pretty flowers on the graves too. I ensure she is respectful, without over worrying her

flowers

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo Fri 22-Jul-16 22:03:15

No. I think it is far healthier for children to be brought up with death as a very sad fact of life than as something to be hidden away. Sorry for your loss flowers your MIL sounds rather insensitive.

Izzadoraduncancan Fri 22-Jul-16 22:03:23

Not odd at all, children love to talk about relatives that have passed. I plan to bring my kids to "see" their gram next week 😢

shabbs Fri 22-Jul-16 22:05:52

My grandson used to come to the cemetery with me when he was about 2 and a half. He is not in the slightest bit frightened by it now (he is 8). He once went with me to take flowers to my loved ones, with a full wrestling costume on lol - Ray Mysterio in fact - mask and all lol. He 'showed' my grandparents all the wrestlers moves. I think its great that he has no fear and understands exactly what happens after we die.

Onesieisthequeensselfie Fri 22-Jul-16 22:06:02

It's difficult to form an impression without more facts OP.

Idontknowwhoiam Fri 22-Jul-16 22:06:11

I've been taking my dc since they were born to their brothers grave.
We've always spoken about him and the same goes for grandparents we've lost too.
Even cartoons deal with death etc so it's not like you can shield them forever.

The dc regularly ask to go visit their brother too so I don't think it's had an adverse affect on them going either... x

ForalltheSaints Fri 22-Jul-16 22:06:39

Not unusual. Just need to think how to answer any questions. Often there are birds to point out and interest a young child.

Owllady Fri 22-Jul-16 22:06:49

Your mil is being silly
Where my dd goes to an playscheme there is a graveyard next door and my boys love to go look round it (14&8 but it's been going on for years) they love it. There are huge traveller family graves which are really quite breathtaking!
I walk to our village church and sit in the graveyard with my dog. I'm not all religious, it's just quiet

Ilovewillow Fri 22-Jul-16 22:07:44

I don't think so, death shouldn't be taboo. We often walk through our churchyard and talk about the people buried there.

Rickstone Fri 22-Jul-16 22:08:54

Well, it's to bring flowers/visit, for a DS I lost... Not sure what other info?

wigglesrock Fri 22-Jul-16 22:09:00

Nope, my kids have always went with me - I help my parents keep their Dads graves and just brought the kids. My youngest child's godfather died when she was two - we go to his grave on a regular basis.

Owllady Fri 22-Jul-16 22:09:10

Sorry I sound quite heartless in my last post confused my sister died when she was young and so did my best friend. Death unfortunately is something that is featured in my life and something I don't think should be a taboo

Owllady Fri 22-Jul-16 22:10:20

It's your son. Ignore!
Be normalxx
Sorry for your loss

Pearlman Fri 22-Jul-16 22:11:54

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DorothyGherkins Fri 22-Jul-16 22:12:47

I have lovely memories of going with my Dad to my Nans grave, on a regular basis. It was just something we did that meant a lot to us, - its a part of life, isn't it, dealing with death. I loved those visits - I would have been quite young at the time. I actually love graveyards now, find them very peaceful, I think going regularly as a little girl helped me to see them as just a normal aspect of family life.

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