To find being a single parent in the school holidays lonely?

(16 Posts)
Patheticfallacy Fri 22-Jul-16 18:42:22

I'm a teacher so during term time I get plenty of adult interaction with colleagues. But school hols I have the dc for pretty much the whole six weeks and I'm finding things very lonely already. The kids are fighting all the time and I'm struggling on anxiety meds that are making me feel a bit drowsy. I'm also having problems in my relationship which isn't helping at all. My boyfriend seems withdrawn and depressed and I can't lean on him for support.
I don't have many friends really, not close enough that I could lean on and I don't have close family support.
I don't think advice would help I think just having people to chat to or to know others are in a similar situation.
Sorry I know it's not really an AIBU but wanted the traffic here.

girlsmum1510 Fri 22-Jul-16 22:43:53

Didn't want to read and run, but I've been there. Chat away on here, are you near to museums that do kids activities? Chance to meet other parents?

How old are your children?

CodyKing Fri 22-Jul-16 22:53:15

Yes - get out of the house once a day - a long walk or library and just chat to other parents

I was married and in the same boat had many lonely summers -

Charley50 Fri 22-Jul-16 23:03:51

Hello OP I feel your pain. Im also a teacher and should love the holidays but I feel a bit panicky. I'm not a single parent anymore but I used to have a lot of parent friends and they've dropped off recently. My DP is quite introverted doesn't like getting drunk with friends and I don't get as many invites as I used to when DS was at primary. My DS is at the age where he doesn't want to do much with me. I don't want to waste the summer but my idea of a fun summer is doing stuff and being with people. I'm going to try and do a project instead.

Charley50 Fri 22-Jul-16 23:05:19

I think you should contact the friends you do have and suggest days or evenings out. Take charge!

Charley50 Fri 22-Jul-16 23:07:01

I'm going to paint some furniture and make sure I see people sorry I'm a bit pissed

BlackeyedSusan Fri 22-Jul-16 23:14:00

yep. lonely.

I go to the library a lot.

Patheticfallacy Sat 23-Jul-16 10:33:48

I'm just missing having the family unit. I know we are a family but I'd love to have someone to come home to.

feelingdizzy Sun 24-Jul-16 09:35:19

I could have written this.I am a teacher,deputy head so am always so busy.Am a lone parent have been for years,we also recently moved so noone local.My family are in another country.I just feel so isolated.My kids are teens,so don't want to do much.I do make them,but its hardly worth the effort,the moaning and groaning.They don't see their dad at all really,so no break,emotionally or financially.
I feel guilty I should be enjoying the holidays,I have great kids,a good job,but I sat in my bedroom this morning and cried I feel so lonely.Am now off to attempt to make a visit to a local park ,cue moaning,rolling of eyes.!!

formerbabe Sun 24-Jul-16 09:40:50

I'm not a single mum but I do get lonely in the school holidays.

All my friends work full time whether they have kids or not...as do my family so most days it's just me and the kids. They argue constantly. ..its very wearing.

I take them out everyday but to be honest I'd quite like to fast forward to September!

RubbleBubble00 Sun 24-Jul-16 09:52:43

I'd see about getting the kids into a summer activity scheme if money's not too tight and give yourself some tlc time

parapluiepliant Sat 30-Jul-16 20:49:32

OP I was thinking about starting a similar thread....I hear you. I have 3 DC (11 months, 7 & 9) and everybody else seems to be on vacations with their nuclear families. I find these times lonely at times as I don't have family near and boyfriend is not a great help....and doesn't get it...he has one baby, I have three DC.
I was considering starting some kind of group in the area I live for solidarity and more play dates and sanity!

YouAreMyRain Sat 30-Jul-16 22:31:42

Me too! Single parent summers are very lonely.
Anyone else here in the Midlands <hopeful>

Sarah0574 Sat 30-Jul-16 23:45:59

Have you tried Googling your local Gingerbread group? It's a support group for single parents and they arrange local days out. I'm attending my second day out with them on Sunday for a picnic in a local park. It's nice to meet people in a similar boat and it breaks up the summer holidays a bit!

springydaffs Sat 30-Jul-16 23:53:03

I always dreaded the summer holidays... but by the time it was time for them to go back to school I felt almost grief.

The way we did it was I got down with the kids iyswim. Like when you're away on holiday and you do everything together, eg they fall asleep on your lap at 11pm, that sort of thing.

Ie all the usual rules, or roles, were completely relaxed: i didn't do mummy stuff but hung out with them. Takes a while to get into the groove but lovely once you're there.

springydaffs Sat 30-Jul-16 23:53:45

Lp btw

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